Emotional Intelligence with The Journey and Doterra essential oils 12 Feb Christchurch - 28th Dec 2018

Emotional Intelligence with The Journey and Doterra essential oils 12 Feb Christchurch

80 % of our illnesses and addictions are caused by emotional imblances -
Most of illnesses and addictions are caused by childhood trauma, unmet sadness, grief and anger

Our emotions affect our behaviours, our responses, our choices and even our perceptions.emotions are a connection point with others, nature, humans and ourselves. But to truly feel takes a lot of courage and you have to be brave. No- one really taught us at school how to be healthily with our emtions

We are either dramatising them, running from them, numbing them out or agressing and dumping them. Most people are escaping from them, cause if they feel the highest joys, then they must be feeling the deepest of pain. Feel the good and run from the bad but unless we meet the dark side we will never be authentically in the light.

Some of us lose ourselves or wallow in our emotions, with a story that can’t let go and it takes a compassionate witness to observe the ever changing world of emotions.Someone who feels safe to feel.

If we ttuly feel our emotions fully, they can pass through the body quickly and you will feel refreshed, cleared out and released. But sometimes we go over and over the story from the head and this causes suffering. We keep the problem in place with the story. We can also manipulate the emotions

Some feel great and some feel truly uncomfortable like weakness, vulnerability, unworthiness, unloveability, insecurity, shame, humiliation and fear. We judge them good and bad.

How we feel them can be a game of inflation like bullying, blame and domination
Rigidity – holding onto them by hardening, shutting down and denial and putting a wall around heart.
Deflation – hiding out, introversion, collapse, narcotising, and passive resistence.

All of these behaviours can be associated with depression.

If we open into the core of any emotion and burn through it, we will open to peace, our source, our essence of our being. Even school kids can do it. Not catharting into pillows , this is different = Opening silently into stillness and totally feeling the feeling, the experience is liberating and lasting.

When we truly are there we come out of the head and into the heart.  We are in bliss cause
we reach the essence of our being.

Paru will be holding a free evening  on how to deal with emotions healthily with the journey and doterra high vibration essential oils.



Detox Retreat New Zealand - 28th Dec 2018

Detox Retreat New Zealand


Do you feel a toxic overload after all the December celebrations?

Do you want to start 2019 with energy and lifeforce?

Do you want to get your eating right for your ayurvedic constitution?

Do you want to heal both physical and emotional blocks and start 2019 in style?

Do you want to drop those extra kilos as a bonus healthily?


This time of the year it’s hard to get back into healthy foods. To do this on our own is tough. But if the intention is there and someone will do it for you and you’ve made your mind up – then Shunyata is the place to come cause it is more than a physical detox

Ayurveda is the most ancient form of healing and truly gets to the core of the body mind soul balance. The liver cleanse allows the body to get back into rhythm along with yoga, meditation and the soul work with the Journey, you are brand new ready to truly enter 2019 in style.

Imagine being next to the ocean, doing yoga on the deck, listening to the birdsong and finding your mind come quieter every day. Imagine it being all about you. Imagine clearing blocks thathave stopped you living your highest potential.



If you can’t make it to Shunyata – Paru has the best Cleanse and restore progamme from doterra that cleared her candida for good and can put you onto this with the right protocol.


Email her @ info@journeyessence.com to find out more.

Tel 03 3294773 or 0272 777734 and speak to Paru today




What is True Spirituality - 17th Nov 2018

What is True Spirituality

Google says

the quality of being concerned with the human spirit or soul as opposed to material or physical things.

Shunyata means empty pure mind

This was what I had committed to when I changed my name 30 years ago in India to Paru -Fire of Love – committed to dedicate my life to meditation and the watcher. Who would think what a fire I had to go through and still going through today, to discover my true self, and now live from that true self.

Best Spiritual Retreat in New Zealand

I can only talk about what Spirituality means to me on this 30 year journey and you may have had a different expeirence and that is fine – but mine has been down the path of the ego or not.What is the ego or the enneagram – it is unconcious behaviour that causes us the most suffering. What flavour of ego are you – so that when you are with a beloved master, like I am with Mooji today, you know your flavour. It might be a peacemaker or a drama queen or pride might run you or not showing up and numbing out – all these are patterns that run us. When you enter an ayahuasca journey and she works on your pride and arrogance, you know it is your egoic self. Would I recommend this path I went on, not for the light hearted, and truly could be done with a little less beat up on yourself, but yes I would recommend the freedom I feel today, the connection with the higher power and the movement beyond illusion into the truth of my being, living from the heart.

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Awakening to your true self – beyond egoic identity. What is this? Well this year my longing became deeper and deeper on my 3 month round the world trip. I did a silent retreat with Mooji in Holland in August and always wanted to live from this place, the heart, not go in and out of it, but truly be it and never felt it so deep within me. This place is effortless, connected, one, magic, pure and true. It’s the place where true magic happens and it is gentle, loving and alive. It is your true self. Grace has helped you through your yearning to be there and everything that is not this will show up. This has happened on my return to the world. I know my higher self shows up in the heart. But what has also happened is my work has become more precise effortless and deep, helping others discover this place. I always remember saying after leaving Byron Bay, I was given so much, now I have to give back. So going into service is the best way to give your self-centredness up. But my heart feels it has been through the washing machine, bruised I would say as life has bought me so many challenges on this journey of the truth of my being.

I got to ask Mooji in Massachusetts, what is the effect of consciousness on healing – and he told me – just keep doing what you are doing. What he meant was keep listening to The Invitation and comitting to this place in your heart and healing will be effortless also. WowI feel it, I know it and I love it even though I feel like I have been through the dark night of the soul. How can we be in the world and still have this commitment to truth?

On observing my clients for 13 years here at Shunyata, all I can say is that with the awakening on the planet, my upgrading of consciousness, the shifts are happening so much faster. I was 10 years in suffering in Byron Bay after losing custody of my child, and felt stuck, but when people come in despair now, that stuckness can be moved so quickly. Maybe it’s depression, they just need to feel the feelings they have been avoiding, Maybe addiction, meet the trauma they took the drugs for, or out of control anger, which a 17 year old met yesterday and was back to a trauma from childhood. It’s effortless when the longing is so deep to be free – it’s like existence is truly wanting this and somehow I have been given the tools to accelerate it.

The Journey method is amazing, I feel so blessed to be given this process cause it can be done by anyone, not necessarily someone on a spiritual path. In fact the more innocent and deeper the suffering and despair, the more profound the process. Many people who have read all the books on spirituality have collected concepts, ideas of what is meant to be, not the actual experience of meeting the truth inside of your being. Their intention is great, their longing is great to be free, but they haven’t actually had the experience. At Shunyata we give you the experience and as the 17 year old discovered yesterday, it is easy and it works.

Mid Life Crisis – Who Am I?
Most people who come to Shunyata have come to that question as they see the old patterns
are not working. Who are you? Who are you really? Have you ever wanted to know something deeper within your being? Why are you here? What is your purpose? These questions we often ask when we get tired of living the old way of the ego.

Meet the unmet sadness, grief or anger or deep childhood trauma or abuse and you will feel this freedom with the journey and then go on to truly be who you are – your essence, your higher self with The Invitation – Mooji Baba (beyond meditation) It works, it works.

Our purpose changes and deepens as we go deeper within. At the recent Doterra conferenceI just got a message from my divine – saying you are in this world to help eleviate suffering. Funny cause suffering as been my journey and my mother’s so your worst self can be reversed to be your best.  Don't you want to live the best version of yourself.

If you want to know more about the retreats at Shunyata and Thejourneymethod,The enneagram, Mooji and all my beloved teachers and of course the high vibrancy of Doterra Pure Essential Oils -Please go to be my website

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The oils I use for deepening my spiritual higher self and assisting on this awakening path are:

Rose Touch - The Oil of Divine Love (to stay in the heart chakra)

Arborivitae – The Oil of Divine Grace

Bergamot – The Oil of Self acceptance

Frankincense – The Oil of Truth

Geranium – The Oil of Love & Trust

Hawaiian Sandalwood – The Oil of Sacred Devotion

Melissa – The Oil of Light

Spikenard – The Oil of Gratitude


If you want any of these oils – you can open a wholesale account with 25% discount



or email me info@journeyessence.com if you want to know more about getting free oils



Addiction in New Zealand - Getting to true cause - 16th Nov 2018

Addiction in New Zealand - Getting to true cause

Unmet Childhood Trauma & Emotions

When it comes to cause of physical and mental health problems, most experts agree that unresolved emotional issues play a significant – if not primary – role in the vast majority of cases.  In order for healing to occur fully at the cellular level, the underlying emotional issue needs to be addressed and resolved.  Journey therapy – with the enneagram, used at Shunyata Retreat can truly get to the core.It’s not the addiction – it’s the person and usually trauma from childhood or unmet sadness, grief or anger. Shunyata has been working with addiction, depression, sexual abuse and anxiety for over 13 years now and Paru feels when people have tried everything else – then this truly works. Combining The Journey, The Enneagram (patterns of unconcious behaviour), Ayurveda (the most ancient form of body balance and healing, Doterra pure  high vibrancy essential oils – we can get to the core of why it is in place.

What is the Journeymethod?

Essentially, journey therapy consists of a gentle, guided introspective process that enables you to uncover and access painful emotions and memories – ones that have been trapped and stored in in the cells of your body over the years.  These unresolved emotions came about in response to trauma and other painful experiences in your life.

Once accessed, you and your therapist will work together to identify and understand how the current problems you’re experiencing, such as troubling behaviors and other issues, are connected to these memories and the painful emotions associated with them.   The purpose of journey therapy is to enable you to finally release these emotions.  This emotional liberation is what facilitates healing and allows you to experience positive changes in all areas of your life.The goal of journey therapy is to help you find peace and clarity, and to open you up to your “source” – the essence of who you are.  It enables you to break free from the limitations that have been holding you back.   Journey work makes it possible for you to move towards reaching your full potential in life – the potential that had previously been hindered by emotional blocks. Paru also works very closely with the enneagram which gets individually to the core of each persons patterns of behaviour, unique to them, that stops them living their potential and caused the  core of their suffering and then sets you up with The Invitation Home to your essence to keep up the truth of your soul..

Addiction & Essential Oils in New Zealand

Doterra pure therapeutic oils are also amazing for addictions and used together with therapies at Shunyata. Paru will check out what’s going on emotionally and also advise the right oils for the right addiction. Maybe it’s the fuzzy feel with eucalyptus, or the anxiety with lavender peace, or grapefruit in the water, or energy with peppermint – there is an oil to help you.

So if you are sick of rock bottom, full of despair and truly want to do the work, or know of anyone who truly is there, then Shunyata is the place to be. You will need to do the detox first and then you will be loved back to wholeness with great food, yoga, the purest of high vibrational essential oils, meditation, gorgeous views and peace for the soul. You will notice that the prices are very competitive ,if not cheaper than anything like it in Australasia.

Call Paru today 0272 777734 or email info@journeyessence.com

May all beings be free and happy!!!!!!!






Depression the Natural Way in New Zealand - 29th Oct 2018

Depression the Natural Way in New Zealand DEPRESSION NZ

Life is hard and the struggle is real and there are natural solutions!!!!!

New Zealand has the highest teenage sucicide in the world. Why? We live in god’s own country. Why are our youth taking their lives? What is happening with them emotionally, phisically and spiritually when they decide to end it?

The real cause of depression is a pattern of emotional shutdown and blocking of emotions caused some form of hurt, trauma or unresolved pain.

Who am I to talk about this?

My name is Paru and this subject is so dear to my heart as I also suffered a deep shutdown of 10 years when I lost custody of my child and the reason I came home after 27 years to help people. There is hope and after 13 years of running Shunyata Health and Healing retreat – I know that depression is an unconcious pattern of behaviour that includes deflation and collapse that drives us deeper into the black hole. It is not a mental illness,it is not an illness at all but goes back to an incident in childhood usually between3 and 8 that was a trauma and caused a shutdown in the cells which then continued an inflation in the personality that then was layered and layered with more shutdown and inflation.

Depression in New Zealand

With our emotions we either go into inflation, deflation or rigidity and the deflation is usually where there is depression.  Deflation and rigidity is anxious depression.  The enneagram types
tell us what pattern you are doing and how to move beyond it.  It is not about a quick fix with
a pill, it is getting to the root cause, the trauma that set it up an this is where the journey comes in.

I have worked with The Journey and the enneagram now for over 18 years, and 14 years in Shunyata on retreat,  every winter travelling and doing more extensive work and offering talks on this work and doterra pure essential oils. I have been amazed ,if the person is willing and so sick of the shutdown, that there is hope, ther eis a way to move beyond that fear of showing up in the world. There is a place out of the numbness and the darkness and a place that will set you free to be your amazing self.A place that is alive, scintillating and open. It is your birthright and with the awakening that is happening on the planet right now, it is a place that is happening more and more. It might take more than 1 journey to get there for some people, but sometimes all it takes is the willingness, the right timing and the feeling of despair that this cannot continue.  At Shunyata you get the one on one attention as we are all unique and have different patterns of avoidance. and strategies of not showing up and being shutdown so we can get to the core of your unique one. If we learn to feel our emotions organically without a story, then we are free.

Depression - The Journey Method New Zealand

There is hope, there is light and I would recommend you read this book Light in the Heart of Darkness Kevin Billet is out and free as an ebook right now on Amazon


Get your copy free for a limited time.

Depression and Essential Oils New Zealand

Paru also uses doterra pure essential oils that have such a high frequency to assist feeling thos emotions

The oil of forgive touch is very powerful for forgiving both self and others
The oil of Elevation to bring you out of the downs and lift you to bliss
The oil of Balance to keep the emotions in balance
The oil of Breathe or Easy Air to truly open up to those hurts
The oil of Console Touch to help feel that grief that has shut you down
Lifelong Vitality - the beyond vitamins - doterra's top selling product or you get your money back

These oils can be bought on my website  the wonderful wholesale price of 25% discount
mydoterra.com/shunyata  or email info@journeyessence.com on how I can help you

I simply love helping people move beyond depression and be free to live their true selves and then continue this, with an amazing technique that is beyond meditation.So if this calls you to come home to your true essence, your being and your true self to live a life of magic, abundance and pure unconditional love and aliveness, or if you know of someone that could
really benefit email me info@journeyessence.com

How to Continue this Work

Come to Shunyata for a day,  3  or5 days.on retreat in a gorgeous ocean view property, doing the work one on one with yoga, meditation, gorgeous healthy food and love and compassion
either on your own or as a couple.

 https://www.journeyessence.com/  or email info@journeyessence.com

Also  I am so excited that  Brandon is a returning to Auckland 25-27 January 2019 Kevin and myself will be having a talk on depression around this time  and your discount voucher is below. for the journey weekend.


May all beings be free and happy

Causeless Joy - 15th Sep 2018

Causeless Joy

What is causeless joy – do you want to taste it?

Temporary happiness comes from the outside, permanent causeless joy comes from within, from your true self. How much do you want to live in this effortless peaceful loving state?

There must be something more than going to work, paying the bills, having children and existing, but not really living.Most humans are living in a shallow place of the mind, the conditioning, the ego - existing but not truly living,and many people do not even fathom there is another place to live which is pure freedom, connected to the one, free of problems and full of pure love an causeless joy.

Sometimes if you are lucky or grace enters, either in a wake up call, an illness, a death of a loved one or something happens in order to wake up this part of us, our soul. We can say after this is a gift. The journey, the search for home, the awakening to our true self happens. The time is now, many beings are awakening to the truth of their selves, why not you. Is your heart yearning for this peace, this love, this truth?

Who are you? Have you truly asked yourself deeply this question? Who are you beyond your role as mother, your work, your role in society. There is nothing more precious, more peaceful, more alive than knowing your true self. What does this mean? Knowing who you are not, your patterns of suffering and ego (the enneagram), and who you truly are beyond the superficial way of living. This place can be called truth, stillness, silence, being, heart, limitless, unboundless, source,essence, openness, grace, soul, oneness. If your soul is calling you to something bigger in this lifetime then Shunyata is the place to come. You can truly see what has been blocking this perfection inside and come to your pure essence.

Paru also had her wake up call 30 years ago in losing custody of her child and every year travels overseas meeting the most amazing teachers and deepening this truth inside. This winter, it truly happened, so deeply with the help of her beloved master mooji and she is so excited to be coming home to help you discover yourself. For her it has been a feeling that hardly ever leaves in the heart, a recognition that is so profound. She had prayed not to come in and out of this place, but to truly live from it.

The enneagram will show you what you are not, The Journey will show you who you truly are and then The Invitation with Mooji , and doterra essential oils, will help to solidify it in your life. The time is ripe, taste the sweetness of your being,dance in joy and the peace and purity of your true self and then go out and touch others from this place of effortlessness.This is the sweetest nectar you will ever taste in this lifetime and it is the only thing that doesn't come and go - it is trustable.

3 day retreats with emotional healing and 5 day ayurveda detoxes available from October.

Email info@journeyessence.com to book your place.

Awakening to the Truth of your Being - Coming Home - 6th Sep 2018

Awakening to the Truth of your Being - Coming Home



Who are you truly? Beyond your beliefs, your conditioning, your ego and your

mind. Who are you in essence, in being, in connection, in truth?Have you ever had a
yearning in your heart for true peace, happiness,causeless joy, lifeforce, pure
unconditonal love- then you have come to the right place, and it has never been a better time on this planet right now and it is truly simple. It’s what most people truly want beyond all the little wants when they come to Shunyata.

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There is so many people on this planet awakening right now to the truth of their being. It is truly simple, it just takes a deep longing inside, a timing where you are so sick of your own suffering or a wake up call of some sort in the form of an illness or emotional trauma.

Shunyata was formed 13 years ago from my own wake up call in Byron Bay, when I lost custody of my child. Who would have known that today, not only have I found this place inside of myself, but after this winter trip overseas, am living it more and more from the heart and am excited to share the ease of it all.  If feel so blessed to be able to travel every winter and meet the world's best masters and workshops and retreats on healing. The journey work always took people to this place inside of themselves, but my prayer 2 years ago was to deepen it and live in it and this year my prayer has come to fruition.  You can only share from your own experience.

This place could be called stillness, silence, being, limitless, heart, unconditional love,boundless freedom, trust, innocence, humility, grace, soul, oneness, gratefulness or god and if you have been on a search or freedom, then you would be familiar with these words. Also at this place is magic,connection,  abundance and pure causeless joy and don't you want more of this n 
your life?

The Journey Brandon Bays  New Zealand

To get there we have to let go of the mind, the ego patterns of suffering and allow our longing from the heart and the help of grace to be that. For the continued connection, The Invitation will help.This place has always been here, we just haven’t been connected. So when we connect we can truly live in effortless non doing, magic and freedom and love itself.

The Invitation - Mooji NZ

If your heart is calling for truth of your being, peace, pure love and freedom then the time is now. Email info@journeyessence.com to book your place this spring or summer at Shunyata where you will be guided gently home to the truth of your being. We will take you to who you are not with the enneagram, (ego patterns of suffering) and bringyou home with The Journey and The Invitation.

So either a 3 day or 5 day detox retreat or couples counselling, where you do the work
individually then come together from this place.

Space available from October 2018



Why Emotional Healing is so Important with Doterra Pure Essential Oils - 6th Jul 2018

Why Emotional Healing is so Important with Doterra Pure Essential Oils

Hi my name is Paru and I have been running Shunyata retreat for 13 years now each year the healing of the client gets more rapid and more precise for exactly what’s going on for each individual. Research in the USA states that 85% of the illnesses are emotionally based.

Emotional shutdown and health problems

This research strongly suggests that in the long run, suppressing or avoiding our instinctive emotional responses to life’s challenges adversely affects our health. To put things very simply, when an emotion is triggered in us, releasing a natural biochemistry into our bodies and we allow ourselves to fully feel the emotion, then it along with the associated chemicals washes through our body, usually quite quickly, leaving no residue.

But when we are emotionally triggered and we shut down, suppress or avoid the experience and our true feelings the result is very different. The released chemicals associated with the emotion remains into our bloodstream and subsequently the residue gets stored inside our bodies. Over time, if illness is going to happen, it will likely occur in these places where the chemical residues are stored.

Numerous scientists and medical doctors have studied and subsequently verified research supporting this. US scientist Candace B. Pert, Ph.D., in particular, has compellingly shown that suppressing emotions can lead to specific cell receptors in our bodies becoming blocked.These blocks then compromise the normal healthy communications between cells, impairing many bodily functions, weakening our normal immune responses and potentially creating illness. 

I have been working with the journey(profound cellular healing) and the enneagram (unconcious behaviours that cause the most suffering) and – and yet more recently Doterra CPTG pure essential oils which tell me what is going on within the pattern and what oil will work on a cellular and emotional level to help that person heal.

Doterra is 10 years old and New Zealand is the largest growing country because what is important to us is

1. Freedom/ Rights/Peace

2. Environment

3. People

Even though we have an image of green, our teenage suicide rates are the highest in the world and my belief is many reasons
1. Life is not challenging and yet we are still stressed and over self medicated

2. Pride is not allowing us to reach out

3 . Childhood trauma is not addressed and one of the main causes of addiction

4. People are not meeting deep seated sadness, grief and anger

5. People are not taught to feel organically

Enter plant based medicine overtaking the world in wellness and challenging the broken downUS medical system. These oils are changing lives just one drop at a time. There is an oils for everything and they work deeply at the cellular and emotional level. We don’t talk about disease, dis-ease – we talk about wellness and what oil will support you body, mind and soul to get back to balance.

My own first experience started with having candida and after spending thousands of $ and going to many naturapaths, who all said they could fix it, I found doterra, lightened up with wild orange,got serious about being super strict on diet for a month and used the cleanse and restore pack and healed my candida for good. This also took into account the emotional component on getting my no strong with clients (boundaries)

It is not the illness, we need to look at the whole person, just like it’s not the addiction, it’s the person. I am heading to Montreal to talk at a conference at why people don’t heal and from 13 years with Shunyata and close to 4 years with doterra, I have collected some amazing results of true healing. We are all individuals, 3 cases of chronic fatigue and each person needed a different oil. What your pattern is needs to be looked at, then the block that is causing your soul’s awakening, then the subconscious blocks with doterra essential oils.

I feel humbled, blessed and grateful to help people truly come back to their true selves and couldn’t do it fully without the help of doterra.

Essential Oils Assist in Healing the Physical Body.

Essential Oils Assist in Healing the Heart.

Essential Oils assist in releasing limiting beliefs.

Essential Oils increase spiritual awareness and connection.

Essential Oils inspire the fulfillment of our life’s purpose

Here is a list of most of the essential oils and their true emotional meaning

Basil- The Oil of Renewal

Bergamot- The Oil of Self-Acceptance

Birch-The Oil of Support

Black Pepper- The Oil of Unmasking

Cassia- The Oil of Self-Assurance

Cedarwood- The Oil of Community

Cilantro- The Oil of Releasing Control

Cinnamon- The Oil of Sexual Harmony

Clary Sage- The Oil of Clarity and Vision

Clove- The Oil of Boundaries

Coriander- The Oil of Loyalty

Cypress- The Oil of Motion and Flow

Eucalyptus- The Oil of Wellness

Fennel- The Oil of Responsibility

Frankincense- The Oil of Truth

Geranium- The Oil of Love and Trust

Ginger- The Oil of Empowerment

Grapefruit- The Oil of Honoring the Body

Helichrysum- The Oil for Pain

Juniper Berry- The Oil of Night

Lavender- The Oil of Communication

Lemon- The Oil of Focus

Lemongrass- The Oil of Cleansing

Lime- The Oil of Zest for Life

Marjoram- The Oil of Connection

Melaleuca- The Oil of Energetic Boundaries

Melissa- The Oil of Light

Myrrh- The Oil of Mother Earth

Oregano- The Oil of Humility and Non-Attachment

Patchouli- The Oil of Physicality

Peppermint- The Oil of a Buoyant Heart

Roman Chamomile- The Oil of Spiritual Purpose

Rose- The Oil of Divine Love

Rosemary- The Oil of Knowledge and Transition

Sandalwood- The Oil of Sacred Devotion

Tangerine- The Oil of Cheer and Creativity

Thyme- The Oil of Releasing and Forgiving

Vetiver- The Oil of Centering and Descent

White Fir- The Oil of Generational Healing

Wild Orange- The Oil of Abundance

Wintergreen- The Oil of Surrender

Ylang Ylang- The Oil of the Inner Child

and there is also so many blends that doterra have come up with that also have emotional meanings

If you want to get started on this emotional journey of healing I would love to speak to you. I am available by email info@journeyessence.com until October then back at Shunyata. Would love to get you started with these amazing oils and July has the special of their lifelong vitality for coming on board. Mydoterra.com/shunyata



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