Menopause The Natural Way - 16th Feb 2017

Menopause The Natural Way

Menopause Retreat in New Zealand

In order to be a great mom, you must feel great about both yourself and your life.The great news about taking care of yourself is that it allows you to share more of who you truly are with your family.

If you are one of the many women about to enter or have entered menopause and want todo it naturally then you are in the right place?  You have probably searched the net and found a few ideas, but we must remember, like many things in life, what works for one doesn't always work for all and Shunyata Retreat works uniquely with you.

  1. Are you worried about what will happen in menopause?
  2. Have you heard all the horror stories?
  3. Do you really want to do this as naturally as possible?

My Story with my amazing menopause

After watching my mother have a stroke at 50, suffering from bipolar and having an incredibly hard and mean menopause, living in Byron Bayat the time, the centre for healing  Iwas determined to prepare myself and do things naturally and right for my body.At around 40 I started taking natural progesterone cream which helped balance my moods and cutting out a lot of cheese and dairy and getting healthier in my eating. After doing 2 ayurvedic panchakarma treatments in India I decided to take a group over there and do an intense cleansing programme while studying ayurveda to bring to Shunyata.

At this time I was in perimenopause which is the time before menopause – approx 2 years depending on individual as the whole process usually takes between 4 and 8 years.I started with a panchakarma liver cleanse, colon cleanse and blood cleanse 23 days in total. On returning from India my periods stopped and I was officially in menopause.I also got from the 2 doctors ideas of rasayana (natural products to take after menopause)and doing lots of research worked out what I though was right for me.

Natural Menopause NZ

I sailed through menopause, 1 hot flush when I had to go to the doll office one day (pride was my ego pattern) and a little insomnia with bad dreams at 3am. But was amazing.Yes I put on weight but learnt to love my menopausal bump like you would love your pregnancy and my body responded well. Since coming out of menopause I have discovered Doterra pure essential oils so have even more support naturally for the body.

Few things I discovered along the way

Everyone is unique and would thoroughly recommend doing your ayurveda test to see whatyou are going to need to look at as this is the body, mind and soul balance

Find out how your mother went and when she went into it

Learn to truly love your body and accept the changes, what you haven't dealt with will come up

Find an exercise that you will maintain – my doctor recommended hill walking and of course yoga

Take your eating to a higher level in health – cut back on alcohol, caffeine, dairy, carbohydrates, wheat and gluten and foods that bring inflamation

Up your self care 5 notches and learn to say no to your loved ones (don't be a martyr)

Communicate with the family that you need their help

Really do some emotional healing work

Find the right essential oil to help you sleep or melatonin but get your sleep so important

Learn how to breathe deeply

Watch stress and take doterra pure essential oils to handle stress
Stress can be the culprit behind additional imbalances in hormones and neurotransmitters that affect mood as well as mental function, thyroid function, digestive function, and especially blood sugar imbalances. Stress has also been linked to symptoms such as hot flushes and low libido.

At 50 you enter the stage of vata in ayurveda so your skin gets dryer and you have more air so lubricate your skin - also problems with digestion can start.The good news is- You can have a great  menopause and come out so much wiser – you just have to change your normal unhealthy ways and of course to get on track.

Do you really want to do this in a healthy way and be nurtured and cared for, balanced and 
rejuvinated to a true body, soul and emotional balance .   Your wellness is important, so take time out, drop the pride and be in that self care/love.

What Shunyata Promises You to help with Menopause

Imagine waking up to birdsong in the most delicious ocean view paradise and served your lemon ginger tea as you start your day with your cleanse.

Imagine doing yoga on the deck overlooking the ocean with divine music

Then coming downstairs to exquisite body work encompassing the world's best essential oils, that will make your cells tingle

Then eating a delicious love filled healthy but decadent lunch

Maybe then your Journey session, bringing your mind to stillness, your worries disappeared you can sit in the sauna in bliss

Meditation time, the bell might ring and another chance at inner peace

After another decadent delicious healthy dinner with wild orange fudge for desert, you might take in an amazing movie,like yoga woman, the shaman journey of healing or Carolyn Myss What is transformation

But you know you will sleep like never before because your mind is so peaceful

Shunyata has been open for 12 years now working with emotional healing, The Journey,Brandon Bays, the enneagram (unconcious patterns of behaviour), ayurveda panchakarma detox and yoga and meditation and doterra essentials oils. The uniqueness is the one on one attention, usually only 2 people at a time. Paru would recommend a 5 or 7 day or longer liver or colon cleanse according to ayurveda type.You will be introduced to the most amazing state of the art therapies, ayurveda,doterra essential oils, The Journey Brandon Bays, The enneagram, craniosacral balancing and yoga on the deck overlooking ocean even yoga teachers are jealous.While doing this would look on what is going on emotional or in the sub-conscious and clear these blocks on a deep cellular level.
You would be inspired to eat gorgeous healthy but delicious food and get recipes to take home
You would get on an exercise programme and take up yoga as many of the clients do
You would lose effortlessly between 2 and 6 kilos and feel great, shining skin,bright eyes and lots of energy and lifeforce.

Don't delay – book your spot now before winter – call Paru 03 3294773

or email



Life Purpose and What is Causeless Joy - 10th Feb 2017

Life Purpose and What is Causeless Joy

Life Purpose and Causeless Joy

Who are You?
No Who are you truly?
If you were to take away your role in this life – have you ever enquired deeper into who you really are?
Why are you here?
What has this vast boundlessness come to this earth to be, to learn, to do?
What is your purpose in being here?

Many of us have never truly enquired into this and yet we muddle our way through life and wonder why we get a midlife crisis or depression or some sort of wake up. As my teacher said, David Deida,that for men if they don't have a purpose they are somehow lost. But women also need to know their gift – their unique essence and live this to feel truly fulfilled. I have found many people a little lost even when they have been living a spiritual life and for this purpose I would love for all people to know their unique gift or purpose in this lifetime.

There are many people talking about the secrets to life purpose but my experience having found working with people for over 15 years that we need to do this in steps. First find out who you are not – ego type - then do a guided meditation The Journey, and when you are in your essence or source – we then do your purpose, that is true from your soul. You cannot get this truly unless it comes from your essence of who you are beyond ego.. A guy recently came for 3 days at Shunyata and went home and changed his life, put his relationships in order and got his health on course and now is living his gentleness and I got the pleasure of seeing him again yesterday with his family and it bought tears to my eyes to see him so clear. May all being be free and happy.

The Enneagram or ego patterns are an automatic pilot you have been living from and which has caused you a lot of suffering. This is different for everyone and there are 9 different ego types. Donald Trump is just one type of ego – the boss, the leader, the confronter and the bully. They are never wrong and don't try and fight them, they will always win. The glass is half empty.But there is the one that is so proud it won't ask for help and another\ one who does all to avoid anger and confrontation. When you bring awareness to these patterns that are running you – you can truly then concentrate on your gifts or your essence.

For me – my ego type was tragic romantic and unique and special. I watched my mother in thisdrama and tragedy and made a decision one day to move beyond it for both of us. Now I serve a higher love with my clients and love all things ordinary. I am living my gift and feel so fulfilled from this.If we are on purpose living our purpose and gifts and passions in life , then we can truly be causeless joy.

What is causeless Joy

This is the joy that is not dependant on anything or anyone on the outside. It comes bubbling out of you when you wake up in the morning. How do we come to this place – well we clear out our lower selves by bringing awareness to our ego patterns (enneagram) and bubble up from the inside from our true gifts in our heart and soul. They go hand in hand.

Why come to Shunyata and not other retreats


  1. You can come anytime as it is very one on one just about you not with lots of other people.

  2. The peaceful ocean view setting that has been energy cleared is conjusive to deep healing.

  3. Daily you are taken gently into your true self.

  4. You are met where you are at and taken deeper.

  5. You come out living the best part of yourself and don't we all want to do this at sometime.

  6. You are introduced to world renown therapies like The Journey, The Enneagram, Doterra Pure Essential Oils along with yoga, meditation and delicious healthy food.

  7. One of the best value and cheapest retreats in Australasia – I challenge you to find better value.

  8. Time for you to do gorgeous coastal walks and swims in the summer

  9. Some of the deepest therapy for depression, anxiety, body pain and shutdown.

  10. The most profound and yet easy detox with Ayurveda Panchakarma

  11. You just get more for your money.

 If you truly want to know your calling and live causeless joy - Call Paru now 03 3294773 to book your space or go to





A True Secret to Digestive Problems - 19th Dec 2016

A True Secret to Digestive Problems


Yesterday I got a message on facebook from a friend how he overcame deep gut pain and how for years this just got worse and worse. After trying many wholelistic practitioners he was told “that the Ileocecal valve, the joining between small and large intestine stopped functioning . He had blocked sinuses and his immune system was going downhill.He had been told by a healer it was due to an overload of pushing the body, constantly to the edge, especially through years of practising Yoga in such a way that created immense stress and tension in his belly and solar plexus. It also appeared that he held on a deep Sadness, personal and from the collective. She also spoke about absorbing energetic residues from participants in the group room, while he was holding the space (never thinking of protecting himself)…

The light went on in my head about the link of this illeocecal valve, the psoas muscle and craniosacral and digestion. So I spent a few days researching.

You can have a problem of an open valve which causes a regurgitation of colon contents and diarrehea.Sometimes a closed valve might be related intestinal yeast overgrowth (or candida), parasites, protozoa, bacterial and viral infections in the intestines. This can be the cause or result of insufficient “good” bacteria in the gut. Comes down to excessive sugar, refined carbohydrate, and/or fruit consumption; food contamination, and drinking chlorinated water, with gut flora problems.. Symptoms would be anything that accompanies constipation, such as bloating, abdominal cramps, flatulence, fatigue, general poor digestion, headaches, halitosis, low back pain, etc..

Then there is the psoas muscle known to hold emotions particulary fear.The psoas is the main muscle that responds to the sympathetic nervous system during the flight or fight response in the body.  When startled or under mental or emotional stress, the psoas contracts.Criticism from a friend, a close call in traffic, an ongoing disagreement with your partner, general anxiety—all of these elicit a contraction in the psoas muscle. This is felt as a tightening in the gut, a hunching of the shoulders and a collapsing in the chest and heart. These feelings if not expressed and thereby released, are held as a charge of energy by the nervous system inside the psoas muscle tissue.

A tight psoas can be the cause of back, hip or groin pain, digestive problems and breathing habits and feelings of exhaustion.  If this muscle is continually contracted it begins to shorten which can lead to sciatica, scoliosis, hip and knee pain and digestive issues.

The psoas muscle relates to four chakras: the root chakra, the creative center, the solar plexus or power center and it reaches up towards the heart center. A good mantra for this muscle is: I AM CREATIVE,  POWERFUL AND LOVING. When the body tightens up and is unwilling to walk forward, look to releasing the psoas muscle to regain your ability to step forward once more.

Liz Koch calls it the muscle of the soul which is why when I work on someones sacrum I feel this soul energy and it's all linked.The psoas is so intimately involved in such basic physical and emotional reactions, that a chronically tightened psoas continually signals your body that you’re in danger, eventually exhausting the adrenal glands and depleting the immune system.”

This could explain why many people are suffering from candida and other gut problems. So would recommend a release of psoas muscle with craniosacral and doterra essential oils for feeling trapped feelings, do some colonics and see if this issue can be resolved.

The sensitive empaths of this world take on other people's energy so easily so can often be found to suffering from either of these problems.The good news is that empaths are needed in this world to feel for all the people who can't feel and here is a great article on them – deep love to all us sensitive beings

Paru Clarke runs Shunyata Retreat & Day Spa and is passionate about emotional and physical healing or contact her on

Day Spa - Christchurch - 1st Dec 2016

 Day Spa - Christchurch

Unique Day Spa Near Christchurch

If you think of a spa - what comes to mind?

Shunyata has taken the word spa and made it into wellness and wholeness.  Okay we can't
say it's 5 star, but the views, the food and the treatments truly are and the energy and the sublime smell of doterra pure essential oils will take you to heaven.

Paru is always travelling picking up the best ideas for her retreat and day spa..Recently at a conference in Montreat - she heard about the benefits of Rosemary for memory, alzeimers and dementia from a chinese medicine practitioner and how this was used in old peoples homes  in USA to help our elderly.

What is the best treatment for hayfever - well we have the pure oils of peppermint, lemon
and lavender but what about shirodhara - the amazing ayurvedic technique she has had incredible results for years.


Maybe you have body pain and have tried everything to shift it - in comes craniosacral used with the deep blue oil on the reflexology points and longstanding pain lifts amazingly.  Her success with so many problems combining doterra and the body work is blowing her away.

Maybe you are totally stressed and need to relax deeper than you have ever relaxed -Aromatouch doterra essential oil massage with craniosacral will take you to a place you have never been before in relaxation.

There is an oil for that - whatever you have - we can address it naturally along with the beautiful natural products used at Shunyata.

Spa Christchurch

Have you tried the ozone sauna, looking out over the bay, ozone and oxygen is poured into your cells as you steam - they used it for HIV and AIDS in USA and is amazing for immune boosting.

Ayurveda treatments, reflexology, many massage techniques including Aromatouch,  cranio-sacral balancing, body scrubs, cellulite and weight loss wraps, gorgeous facials, and of course if you come on retreat - there is yoga overlooking the deck and meditation.

Then there's the food - sugar free and delicious chocolate treats that are all pure and good for you, gorgeous healthy and delicious salads and low carb and gluten free, paleo, you name it,
we can provide.

So looking forward to meeting you off the ferry from Lytellton for a day you will truly remember

call now to book your place this xmas break 03 3294773 or email

Paru Clarke runs Shunyata Retreat and Day Spa  www.


Shunyata is looking beautiful for the summer - 27th Nov 2016

Shunyata is looking beautiful for the summer Hello my lovelies

How's our stress levels leading up to Christmas.

We are clearing out all the overgrowth and putting in new energy into this paradise.I love getting french woofers cause like me they love good food and when you are travelling and  can get gorgeous healthy food, go to camp bay for a sunbathe and have the peace and tranquility of this beautiful place, you want to work - so shunyata is looking gorgeous.

I have written two recent blogs - first one is on sexual healing as this is why I came home
to offer it to New Zealand and each time I do a journey I know how precious it is, so if you know someone who could benefit from either coming on retreat or doing a journey by skype get them to contact me

and then one on grief.

The doterra oils are blowing me away day by day with their intricate properties on how to make  my life and people'  lives easier and  I am feeling kind today and offering 2 free oils if you like my facebook page now and share.

I hope you and your loved ones have a gorgeous xmas and new years breaks and remember 
how challenging it can be to return to families who want to keep you as the energy you had as a child and how hard it is not to react.  You can contact me and do a journey by skype as these are amazing and get to the core.There is also space over the xmas holidays owing to cancellations  if you know of anyone who would truly benefit from some amazing clearing.

I love you all and hope to see soon

love and light always

Paru Clarke runs shunyata Retreat and Day Spa

Want More Spark in your Love Life? - 25th Nov 2016

Want More Spark in your Love Life?



Do you feel there is always a block there when you go to make love?

Sometimes it is truly hard to recognise if sexual abuse has happened but something doesn't feel right and there is often fear in the body and you can't truly open totally. Each time you enter another relationship – something comes up in the lovemaking. Are you sick and tired of this happening. Do you want to put this to bed for good.

Enter Shunyata, The Journey and Doterra essential oils

Why Paru

Life guides you if you are open to the guidance and maybe you don't see it till years later.My path began in Byron Bay after losing custody of my child and I was the travel agent sending thousands of Sanyassins to Osho Ashram in Pune and loved their peace inside and wanted a little for myself. So took long service leave and went off to this amazing place. I laughed and said, I thought I came for free sex and love, did I miss the boat, but unbeknowing to me I was on a journey to clear out all the guilt and shame I had picked up from a catholic upbringing around sexuality. I don't think I was abused but there was fear in my body when doing craniosacral balancing. So from that day onward my journey began “Finding god through sex”.


Soon after David Deida arrived and revolutionised our community with sexual polarity. It was all about openenss and as I was shutting down a lot at this time, kept following his work and truly found my feminine side at 40.

At this time knew I had to work with The Journey so decided to come home as there was somuch sexual abuse that was pushed under the table – the very english way and wanted to work with people in my own country. Shunyata has been open 12 years now and one of my specialties has been openenss and healing abuse and blocks from sexual trauma.

There is so much more to just sex. The orgasm just lasts a few seconds. When the feminine is open, trusting and in surrender – the masculine consciousness enters her and her whole body is in full orgasm. This can be available to all of us if we want enough.
Enter Tantra – slowing down the whole process and bringing meditation and consciousness to lovemaking.In tantra you learn how to relate to your partner, with honesty, openness and vulnerability. My partner once said to be me," Your loving melts my fears", this is true intimacyand It's only from that place that you can have really beautiful lovemaking. It is a totally different approach to sex.Tantra enables you to become more conscious, mindful and aware on a moment-to-moment basis, and helps you to say yes to the parts of life that inspire, excite and interest you.

Great Article by a friend on arousal for women - thank you Elle

Don't you long to experience something more than the quickie?
Do you want to bring your relationship and lovemaking to a higher level of consciousness? Sometimes in a group situation "You can feel a bit daft, embarrassed and self-conscious, so this is why Shunyata offers one on one couples retreats where it's all about you.
Paru has adapted an  amazing ability to meet you where you are at and take you just a little deeper..Some people pay $2000 per day for this one on one coaching – you can have 5 days for $2,500 a couple in this little untouched ocean view paradise and people will always remember the 3 course romantic dinner at the end.

If you can't make it on retreat – then you can do a journey on skype ParuClarke

Doterra Essentail Oils NZ for Intimacy

To help you in this new way of being enter Doterra essential oils – the new(Whisper essential oil blend) contains patchouli, bergamott, sandalwood, rose, jasmine, cinnamon bark, vetiver, ylang ylang, geranium, and cocoa and vanilla bean extracts and can be used to enhance sensual feelings and help you to connect to your feminine qualities.

Some girls love the floral scents, such as ylang ylang, jasmine or rose.  Some love being energized by spicy scents, like cinnamon, or energizing scents, like lemon or orange.  Some women may consider a relaxing scent to be sensual, while others may find that an invigorating scent increases their sexual energy.Some blends that are gorgeous we use here at Shunyata are:

Ylang ylang + wild orange,
Patchouli and wild orange

Bergamot + ylang ylang
Clary sage & Cinnamon
Sandalwood & Arborivitae

of course jasmine and rose but these oils need so much to make them so pure up to doterras standards – so not available for sale only on competition.

If you want to obtain these oils retail on my site or join up to get 25% off wholesale email

Paru Clarke runs Shunyata Retreat and Day Spa   www.

Grief and how to deal with it healthily on retreat - 23rd Nov 2016


It is the time when many of us are losing our parents. This is a truly deep time and we want to share in their passing in a healthy beneficial way.

In comes THE JOURNEY . My mother died around september the 11th just after the towers went down and the whole world was in grief. I flew from Byron to Melbourne to see her for the 5th time and she died while I was in the air. I had been doing so much preparation for her passing and felt devastated I wasn't there to witness her soul leaving. To add to this at this time I was on the last ansett flight in Australia and they were blaming Air New Zealand for their bankruptcy. Wow did I feel it that night – listening to the news, it came to me“The war is deeper than the rugby between New Zealand and Australia.”

Brandon Bays had told us that grief shouldn't take more than 7 days if we go into it completely.Well the travel industry was quiet so I did just that. I took a homeopathic called ignatia, to let all the feelings come up and if you haven't been through grief, it will knock you for a six. One minute you are crying, the next laughing and it's out of control – so you let it go out of control. It took 2 months but I can truly tell you by allowing these feelings to come totally, I felt my mother left me with an amazing legacy. She suffered so much in this lifetime but I made a decision to live her passion, which she had from time to time in her memory. To this day I feel truly blessed.  I made a healthy vow and a vow has a lifeforce of its own.

Many years later on seeing people here at Shunyata, we truly feel these trapped feelings with The Journey, we clear out the blocks and come to a new beginning from the soul. We take the legacy our parents have left us and we go live it for them and for ourselves.

I also use this amazing doterra essential oil of Console – which is like having mum's arms wrapped around you telling you it will be alright and this helps people to truly feel hidden


How to Deal with Grief

If people haven't been through grief they can't be there for you. They don't know how to bewith their own emotions let along your out of control ones. You need people who understand and who can hold your hand through the grief so you can get on with life. Most people just tell you to get over it and this  doesn't work. It needs to be felt totally to move.on.

Many clients have left Shunyata with their grief dealt with in a healthy way – so reach out You are not alone. Come and be nurtured and pampered back to wholeness. Give this gift to yourself for you and your loved ones. Call now 03 3294773 or txt 0272 777734 or email

Paru Clarke runs Shunyata Retreat and Day Spa

Journey Now Available on Skype - 19th Nov 2016

Journey Now Available on Skype


“Your self is inherently liberated, it is the ideas that have been imposed on that self which must be set free”. My darling teacher Gangaji

Come come come to the edge, come to the edge, he pushed – she flew!!!!!

I am so excited to now be able to offer you this amazing process by skype as many peopledo not have time to come here on retreat but may have been here before and come up withsome challenges or blocks in their life they want to clear. Coming up to christmas and meetingfamily who still want to hold you in the child – it's time to stop reacting and feel the power and the freedom of who you truly are.

How easy is it for you

Set up a time to set aside 2 hours to really get to the core of the blocks you are having on a soul level that are limiting you from moving forward in your life. Establish what journey you feel you need to address or discuss with Paru which is best.

What's stopping me – Fear journey?
Abundance Journey – what is stopping me truly living an abundant life?  3 sessions only
Feminine quality journey – how am I not living my feminine core?
Ego patterns?
Life Purpose journey?

Get really clear on what it is you want to address?
What is it I truly want for myself?
If I got that what would it give me?
What am I avoiding?

Make sure you are set up on skype my address is Paru Clarke
Set up a time by email with Paru when you are available

What I can promise you in this session

Every year for the last 25 years I have been passionate in my own awakening and of recent with doterra essential oils and some amazing trips overseas with some of the best teachers in gratitude, spirituality and wisdom, have hit into a life of abundance and want to share this with you.I am excited to share my wisdom, nurturing nature, authenticity and fierce lover of truth totruly help you clear whatever is stopping you living from your true higher self/essence. If youknow me you will know that true wisdom comes from life's knocks, and I trust whatever knocks you have had, you will see the souls gift underneath. I will motivate, inspire and lead you to true abundance in your life, to live the life of your dreams and be the best version of yourself.Don't we all want to be this in this lifetime?

Are you ready? Email or txt 0272 777734 to arrange a time.


Special Cost to You until 31 December 2017

Nomally $300 your cost only $250 or 3 sessions over 6 months for $600 with followup

Thank you from the bottom of my heart, I feel so light and free at long last Anthea Nelson

Paru Clarke runs Shunyata Retreat and Day Spa

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