Want More Spark in your Love Life? - 25th Nov 2016

Want More Spark in your Love Life?



Do you feel there is always a block there when you go to make love?

Sometimes it is truly hard to recognise if sexual abuse has happened but something doesn't feel right and there is often fear in the body and you can't truly open totally. Each time you enter another relationship – something comes up in the lovemaking. Are you sick and tired of this happening. Do you want to put this to bed for good.

Enter Shunyata, The Journey and Doterra essential oils

Why Paru

Life guides you if you are open to the guidance and maybe you don't see it till years later.My path began in Byron Bay after losing custody of my child and I was the travel agent sending thousands of Sanyassins to Osho Ashram in Pune and loved their peace inside and wanted a little for myself. So took long service leave and went off to this amazing place. I laughed and said, I thought I came for free sex and love, did I miss the boat, but unbeknowing to me I was on a journey to clear out all the guilt and shame I had picked up from a catholic upbringing around sexuality. I don't think I was abused but there was fear in my body when doing craniosacral balancing. So from that day onward my journey began “Finding god through sex”.


Soon after David Deida arrived and revolutionised our community with sexual polarity. It was all about openenss and as I was shutting down a lot at this time, kept following his work and truly found my feminine side at 40.

At this time knew I had to work with The Journey so decided to come home as there was somuch sexual abuse that was pushed under the table – the very english way and wanted to work with people in my own country. Shunyata has been open 12 years now and one of my specialties has been openenss and healing abuse and blocks from sexual trauma.

There is so much more to just sex. The orgasm just lasts a few seconds. When the feminine is open, trusting and in surrender – the masculine consciousness enters her and her whole body is in full orgasm. This can be available to all of us if we want enough.
Enter Tantra – slowing down the whole process and bringing meditation and consciousness to lovemaking.In tantra you learn how to relate to your partner, with honesty, openness and vulnerability. My partner once said to be me," Your loving melts my fears", this is true intimacyand It's only from that place that you can have really beautiful lovemaking. It is a totally different approach to sex.Tantra enables you to become more conscious, mindful and aware on a moment-to-moment basis, and helps you to say yes to the parts of life that inspire, excite and interest you.

Great Article by a friend on arousal for women - thank you Elle


Don't you long to experience something more than the quickie?
Do you want to bring your relationship and lovemaking to a higher level of consciousness? Sometimes in a group situation "You can feel a bit daft, embarrassed and self-conscious, so this is why Shunyata offers one on one couples retreats where it's all about you.
Paru has adapted an  amazing ability to meet you where you are at and take you just a little deeper..Some people pay $2000 per day for this one on one coaching – you can have 5 days for $2,500 a couple in this little untouched ocean view paradise and people will always remember the 3 course romantic dinner at the end.

If you can't make it on retreat – then you can do a journey on skype ParuClarke journeyessence@hotmail.com

Doterra Essentail Oils NZ for Intimacy

To help you in this new way of being enter Doterra essential oils – the new(Whisper essential oil blend) contains patchouli, bergamott, sandalwood, rose, jasmine, cinnamon bark, vetiver, ylang ylang, geranium, and cocoa and vanilla bean extracts and can be used to enhance sensual feelings and help you to connect to your feminine qualities.

Some girls love the floral scents, such as ylang ylang, jasmine or rose.  Some love being energized by spicy scents, like cinnamon, or energizing scents, like lemon or orange.  Some women may consider a relaxing scent to be sensual, while others may find that an invigorating scent increases their sexual energy.Some blends that are gorgeous we use here at Shunyata are:

Ylang ylang + wild orange,
Patchouli and wild orange

Bergamot + ylang ylang
Clary sage & Cinnamon
Sandalwood & Arborivitae

of course jasmine and rose but these oils need so much to make them so pure up to doterras standards – so not available for sale only on competition.

If you want to obtain these oils retail on my site mydoterra.com/shunyata or join up to get 25% off wholesale email info@journeyessence.com

Paru Clarke runs Shunyata Retreat and Day Spa   www. journeyessence.com

Grief and how to deal with it healthily on retreat - 23rd Nov 2016


It is the time when many of us are losing our parents. This is a truly deep time and we want to share in their passing in a healthy beneficial way.

In comes THE JOURNEY . My mother died around september the 11th just after the towers went down and the whole world was in grief. I flew from Byron to Melbourne to see her for the 5th time and she died while I was in the air. I had been doing so much preparation for her passing and felt devastated I wasn't there to witness her soul leaving. To add to this at this time I was on the last ansett flight in Australia and they were blaming Air New Zealand for their bankruptcy. Wow did I feel it that night – listening to the news, it came to me“The war is deeper than the rugby between New Zealand and Australia.”

Brandon Bays had told us that grief shouldn't take more than 7 days if we go into it completely.Well the travel industry was quiet so I did just that. I took a homeopathic called ignatia, to let all the feelings come up and if you haven't been through grief, it will knock you for a six. One minute you are crying, the next laughing and it's out of control – so you let it go out of control. It took 2 months but I can truly tell you by allowing these feelings to come totally, I felt my mother left me with an amazing legacy. She suffered so much in this lifetime but I made a decision to live her passion, which she had from time to time in her memory. To this day I feel truly blessed.  I made a healthy vow and a vow has a lifeforce of its own.

Many years later on seeing people here at Shunyata, we truly feel these trapped feelings with The Journey, we clear out the blocks and come to a new beginning from the soul. We take the legacy our parents have left us and we go live it for them and for ourselves.

I also use this amazing doterra essential oil of Console – which is like having mum's arms wrapped around you telling you it will be alright and this helps people to truly feel hidden


How to Deal with Grief

If people haven't been through grief they can't be there for you. They don't know how to bewith their own emotions let along your out of control ones. You need people who understand and who can hold your hand through the grief so you can get on with life. Most people just tell you to get over it and this  doesn't work. It needs to be felt totally to move.on.

Many clients have left Shunyata with their grief dealt with in a healthy way – so reach out You are not alone. Come and be nurtured and pampered back to wholeness. Give this gift to yourself for you and your loved ones. Call now 03 3294773 or txt 0272 777734 or email info@journeyessence.com

Paru Clarke runs Shunyata Retreat and Day Spa   www.journeyessence.com

Journey Now Available on Skype - 19th Nov 2016

Journey Now Available on Skype



“Your self is inherently liberated, it is the ideas that have been imposed on that self which must be set free”. My darling teacher Gangaji

Come come come to the edge, come to the edge, he pushed – she flew!!!!!

I am so excited to now be able to offer you this amazing process by skype as many peopledo not have time to come here on retreat but may have been here before and come up withsome challenges or blocks in their life they want to clear. Coming up to christmas and meetingfamily who still want to hold you in the child – it's time to stop reacting and feel the power and the freedom of who you truly are.

How easy is it for you

Set up a time to set aside 2 hours to really get to the core of the blocks you are having on a soul level that are limiting you from moving forward in your life. Establish what journey you feel you need to address or discuss with Paru which is best.

What's stopping me – Fear journey?
Abundance Journey – what is stopping me truly living an abundant life?  3 sessions only
Feminine quality journey – how am I not living my feminine core?
Ego patterns?
Life Purpose journey?

Get really clear on what it is you want to address?
What is it I truly want for myself?
If I got that what would it give me?
What am I avoiding?

Make sure you are set up on skype my address is Paru Clarke journeyessence@hotmail.com
Set up a time by email with Paru when you are available info@journeyessence.com

What I can promise you in this session

Every year for the last 25 years I have been passionate in my own awakening and of recent with doterra essential oils and some amazing trips overseas with some of the best teachers in gratitude, spirituality and wisdom, have hit into a life of abundance and want to share this with you.I am excited to share my wisdom, nurturing nature, authenticity and fierce lover of truth totruly help you clear whatever is stopping you living from your true higher self/essence. If youknow me you will know that true wisdom comes from life's knocks, and I trust whatever knocks you have had, you will see the souls gift underneath. I will motivate, inspire and lead you to true abundance in your life, to live the life of your dreams and be the best version of yourself.Don't we all want to be this in this lifetime?

Are you ready? Email info@journeyessence.com or txt 0272 777734 to arrange a time.


Special Cost to You until 31 December 2017

Nomally $300 your cost only $250 or 3 sessions over 6 months for $600 with followup

Thank you from the bottom of my heart, I feel so light and free at long last Anthea Nelson

Paru Clarke runs Shunyata Retreat and Day Spa www.journeyessence.com

Getting Your Mojo Back - 7th Nov 2016

Getting Your Mojo Back

Getting your Mojo Back and Powering through Life

There is so much disconnection, depression and suicide happening in this country that has been named number 1 in the best country in the world to live. What is going wrong?

Most people who come to Shunyata have been through some tough times and have lost track, feel disconnected from their loved ones, feel something is not right anymore and finally reach out for some help. They have done the right thing – they have reached despair, their ego patterns can't work anymore and they are disconnected from their soul or their true self but don't realise it, just something doesn't seem right anymore.


I opened Shunyata for this very reason, I too lost myself, felt depressed, shut down and mistrusting of people in life when I lost custody of my child in Byron Bay 30 years ago and what a journey I have been on ever since and what a true privilege to offer a place that I would have loved to have come to, to get my mojo back. You can't trust people because most of them are living from their ego patterns, but you can trust in a higher power.

What is it to feel alive, open, motivated, inspired, on fire? When was the last time you felt this?Don't we deserve this, doesn't everyone want to live their best of themselves and then offer it to the world.

How do we do that – how do we get our Mojo back?

Well Paru has been working with people for 12 years now and has noticed a theme that is slightly different for each person and is tailored accordingly but generally follows this sequence. Each year she travels over the world to research the most advanced healing and consciousness teachers and this year discovered she was on the right track here in New Zealand and up to date.
First we have to disconnect from the world and come on retreat to give up doing and just be and take time to go inside and discover what we have missed being in the cogwheel of life.

Next we have to know who we are and who we are not The enneagram (unconcious patterns of behaviour )and what is our life purpose or gift to the world.

Next we have to know what foods work for nourishing our body, our temple to work at it's optimum.It is different for everyone and there is so many diets and food fads out there that people are confused. The one that is all encompassing and balances you body mind and soul is your ayurvedic type http://www.holisticonline.com/ayurveda/w_ayurveda-dtest1.htm.One lady came off a P Addiction just doing this ayurveda detox programme

Next we have to come to forgiveness of all the people that have hurt us and who we are shut down from, because our shut down is taking our life force. We can do this with The Journey at Shunyata which not only helps with forgiveness, but takes you to your source and opens you toclarity from a soul prospective. or if you can't come to shunyata the doterra forgiveness oil is amazing

Next we have to know what is happening emotionally if there is some physical challenge and this we can do with a zyto reading and then provide the right essential oil to help you overcome this challenge. Most physical illnesses have an emotional component and if you have tried everything else, this usually works because it addresses the unconcious blocks. Many people have overcome chronic fatigue with a different oil.

If it is pain you are dealing with, combining the deep blue doterra essential oil or the oils in the zyto reading with craniosacral and reflexology – pain disappears and you can get on with living totally.

Next you have to establish your part in your separation with your loved ones. No more blame game, what we want – give it 10 fold and it will come back to you. Open up and be humble and in truth and this will bring back true intimacy. Forgive.

Self love is such an important part of our journey of awakening and most people are not gentle with themselves as they grow, Love Whatever arises. Fall deeply in love with your inner child and your body, your sacred temple.

Notice our underlying fears. We are either living in fear of love. Feel the fears and behonest about them which helps us to be free. What we resist persists. The journey helpsus to be true to our emotions and the amazing doterra essential oils also help us unblock feelings that we are not feeling.

Are we living our life in authenticity. 90% of the lies are the lies we tell ourselves and it'sour illusion, generally women, or denial generally men, that is blocking the truth.Truth will set you free.

Are we grateful everyday for what we have. We can't force it – it comes out of an open heart.But gratefulness brings so much more magic and godliness to our lives. The new spikenard doterra essential oils helps us with gratefulness

Have we got our life in balance, following our 3 passions in life and giving equal time to them all.This is true success.  I put balance oil on my feet every day to keep emotions balanced and my life in balance.

Have we surrendered to a higher power and asked that higher power for help or are we still proud and independent and feeling separate. Oneness is the only way the world is going forward.Live in abundance which means oneness, connection and wholeness. - there is enough for all of us.

Look at your life and ask yourself if you want to get off the cogwheel of madness in the world, chasing the dollar, temporary success, disconnection and suffering and make a difference bycoming home to your true self and getting true clarity from a soul's prospective. The only true and lasting joy comes from going in. Live causeless joy not dependent on anything or anyone and touch your loved ones with connection, true intimacy and depth and wisdom.

Call Paru today to book your retreat or day spa or how to obtain wholesale prices on these amazing therapeutic oils 03 3294773 or email info@journeyessence.com

Watch" You are Not my Guru" Tony Robbins on Netflix to give you an idea of the
breakthrough you will have one on one at Shunyata




A True Breakthrough or Soul Convergence- Womens Awakening - 25th Aug 2016

How many of us are living our true soul's calling?

When you enter this journey life just gets better and better

I have just finished an amazing soul convergence in Portland Oregon clearing out blocks that
are restricting us to show up as the most pure version of ourselves - beyond ego, beyond mind and beyond personality so we can fulfill our souls mission or life purpose on this planet.

As we evolve we need inspiration to take us deeper and this man, Matt Kahn , truly lived up
to this with me.  He held us in source which is that space of emptyness of the mind, that space
called source, that space of essence or our true selves that nothing matters where we have a break from ourselves.  This place which is more heart centred has more truth, more love and more relaxation and is more accessible to me now.  In this place healing and manifestation happens easily.

When we feel safe our nervous system unravels and we relax more into this place inside of ourselves beyond ego.  Ego is our defence mechanism to survive in the world but we want to move beyond survival.    I realised why I loved to chant, this disolves the ego and opens the heart and will be doing more of this at Shunyata.

I learnt that experiences and desires  will never truly fulfill us, we will just move on to the next one.
He really took the micky out of the false spiritual which I loved and how important life is to really teach you what you need and evolve your life purpose.

There was a lot of reclaiming our power which really applys to a lot of us.  We play small and 
the difference between confidence and arrogance.    How the courage to live life on the edge
keeps us alive and many of us are half in and half out of life and relationship.

How we use distractions and excuses for not showing up in life and how checking facebook, emails etc diminishes our pure self.  How fear blocks us
What am I afraid to lose, to face or to gain?

How life brings us so much irony.  How we need to meet people, our lovers, our friends as if
we are just meeting them for the first time, to stop holding people in a box of how you remembered them- we are all evolving at a rapid pace.

I know that ego and the enneagram pinpoints the blocks of different people but understanding other  versions of ego being
spiritual ego
shadow (dark side or sabateur)
masks from parents and ancestors

A reminder that life is mapped out for us - we just need to go for the ride which I had read in
"From Onions to Pearls".
and how we just need to move forward and stop over analysing and self obsessing like so
many of us do on this spiritual journey.

The true gift from this man is the title of his book
"Whatever arises, love that"  Matt Kahn
and there are layers and layers of self love to uncover and to help in our healing we have to give
ourselves a break and truly love ourselves back to wholeness.

I feel so honoured and blessed to have been part of this soul covergence in Portland Oregon and as we all upgraded our consciousness we can now touch others in this amazing journey of awakening and uncovering the pure beingness of ourselves.
"Om shanti  shanti he
I am happy I am free"

May all beings find this state of causeless joy and happiness and I feel honoured to help you
discover this.  Please come to Shunyata this spring/ summer in a gorgeous ocean view peaceful sancturary and celebrate your uniqueness and true gift to the world of your beingness .  The ocean heals my soul and I'm sure it will heal yours
email info@journeyessence.com

Also to see more of what happens in breakthrough watch

"I am not your Guru"  Tony Robbins on netflix

Success or Abundance - The true secret to Abundance from experience - 18th Jul 2016

Abundance or Success
Abundance has a good vibe to it but it has so much more. Here i will tell you
The main difference.
50% of people are depressed, 60% of people are unhappy, there is a huge
Student debt and many people are taking antidepressants and itś getting worse.
 Everyone will have their definition of abundance but for me it has come from
 experience.  I had been successful in the worldś eyes.  I was at the top of my
Career as a travel agent, travelled the world, spoke 3 languages and had a numerous amount of french boyfriends and I thought I had it all.  Well the universe had other 
plans for me at 32 years old I lost custody of my child and thank god I was living in 
Byron Bay at the time where the movement of personal development and spirituality was in abundance.  So here started my journey in. Success is always dependent on 
the outside and never sure.  It comes and goes and the bar is always being raised.  If you look at people who are successful, how many of them are truly happy inside. 
 Always chasing the next goalpost and never being in the moment.
 Why I advocate  and teach
abundance is because itś not dependent on anything on the outside and is living 
beyond the mind.

  1.  Itś all one, connected in tune with nature
  2.  If you work at a job that is your passion and makes you happy, abundance flows
  3. Itś a balance in life of body, mind and soul and living your passions
  4. Itś effortless because it comes out of your true authentic self, no struggle.
  5. Itś being the energy of abundance - less doing more being
  6. Itś stopping and appreciating life on a daily basis, gratitude also has a great vibe -
  7.  more beauty flows
  8. Itś continuous gratefulness for what you have not striving for what you dont
  9. Itś sharing your abundance by being of service to the world in your essence and it 
  10. comes back 10 fold
  11. Itś not automatic pilot but experiencing life beyond the mind, smell, taste, sound, what brings you present and joy
  12. Itś a connection with a higher power and the belief in magic
  13. Itś living life on purpose each sharing our gifts and following which brings us joy
  14. Itś limitless and living from the heart in causeless joy not the mind
  15. Itś not believing in the unconscious beliefs and patterns but living more from your 
  16. authentic self
  17. Itś freedom to do what in you love in creativity, time and vitality
  18. Itś living from innocence like a child, open and curious - the more we know the less we know
  19. Moving out of living from fear and embracing the unknown and change
  20. Itś being with the what is in the now
  21. Finally personaly abundance is living a beautiful higher love in relationship
  22.  honouring each other with deep respect and growing together and the feeling of 
  23. great humility, openenss and a great big smile for life.
The education system needs to be changed.  Itś creating drones and preparing us for a materialistic life.  This is why so many people are depressed trying to live up to a system that doesnt make people happy.  They need to bring in emotional intelligence 
training teaching children how to be with their emotions, yoga to be conscious of the body and meditation for mindfulness.
You have to really want this for yourself.  You cant have a vision without action.
My abundant life truly happened when I was introduced to DOTERRAŚ WILD ORANGE OIL.  This oil is so juicy, so alive and so vibrant.  Known for lightness, child like innocence, pure joy and abundance.  My life truly started to change-
And I deeply want this for all of us.
Book a retreat at Shunyata by the end of August for September, October or 
November and receive this free oil when u mention  this add.  250 drops of pure abundance.
Email info@journeyessence.com and come and see where you are blocking 
Your true abundance in your life and come home to yourself.

Living a Higher Love - Relationships Today - 18th Jul 2016

Living a Higher Love - Relationships Today Relationships and Higher Loving

DARIUS BOYD  - How learning to forgive his mother helped the new broncos captain save his marriage and his career.

This is the work we do here at Shunyata
How do you love?  Do you know that most of us were never taught to love
Properly and what we learnt came mainly from what we saw until 7 years old
With our parents.  If we are good in our relationships we are good in life!!!!!
So how do we get there?
We as humans have needs that we hope our partner will fulfill like need for
Security, pleasure, importance, to become, to be needed, to grow etc but often
These needs are not met by our partners and we suffer.  We enter a relationship
 in the euphoria phase or honeymoon stage and we dont see theTruth and our egos
 are glazed over by that person.  They are amazing!!!!!!
Next stage realisation we we find their true faults, we dont say anything but
Enter internally into a sort of rebellion and often here people will break up,
Not leaving time for the deepening of this love.  We have so many more 
Beautiful stages to go through with our life partner and we just take the same
Problems to the next relationship and this is why so many relationships dont work
 and cause suffering.
I have made it my lifelong mission to serve a higher love in people, to help couples
 where they are at and open their hearts to come back to this love.Many people have
 not touched the mystery and the beauty of this love but weAll want it.  Dont you think
 your relationship is worth it? Most relationships are just attachment not love and we become beggars for love. 
 We expect the other to totally satisfy us and when they dont we suffer.  We truly need
 to know this love for ourselves first then the compassion and the unconditional love
 prospers for the other.  Awareness, mindfulness and deep passion will bring you the 
joy and love you truly want.
Many couples who have come to Shunyata in the last 11 years have opened their
 hearts again to each other and it is my deepest prayer that this happens for you both.  
It takes great courage but this love is worth it and you will be guided home to each
All couples booking a relationship retreat in September, October and November 2016
 by 31 August 5 DAYS $2000 will qualify for a free oil with doterra when u mention 
This add.
Email info@journeyessence.co

Emotional Healing - The most powerful way in New Zealand - 31st May 2016

Emotional Healing - The most powerful way in New Zealand

Are you carrying negative beliefs, conditioning & thoughts that are impeding your healing and blocking magic in your life?

Have you ever considered a retreat from the world? It’s never been a better time to take time out from your thoughts and retreat from your mind . Assess your beliefs and emotions and gain clarity and direction to take back your power to live a life from your highest potential.

Many of us are carrying emotional blocks that impede our physical healing and at Shunyata retreat and spa we can assess these and clear the major block that is stopping you living your
true potential.

Maybe you want to take an emotional fitness test to see how you score

We are bombarded by articles and advertisements about the value of becoming physically fit. What about your emotional fitness? How would life be if you were really emotionally free. Take this questionnaire to determine your emotional health. Each question has 4 answers to choose from. Please total the numbers from all answers.

1. Do you stop yourself from feeling emotions?

Often(1), sometimes(2), rarely(3), never(4)

2. How do you deal with anger?

Explode(1), suppress(2), talk about(3), feel it(4)

3. When someone else expresses anger do you –

Feel scared(1), explode with anger yourself(2), speak up for yourself(3), let their anger stay with them(4)

4. Do allow yourself to cry?

Never(1), rarely(2), sometimes(3), usually(4)

5. Do anxious feelings stop you from trying something new?

Never(1), rarely(2), sometimes(3), usually(4)

6. When someone close to you died, how did you react?

Not grieve(1), grieve a little(2), tell yourself to stop grieving(3), let yourself feel it(4)

7. Do you laugh, sing and dance with happiness?

Never(1), rarely(2), sometimes(3), often(4)

8. When you are criticized do you –

Feel neutral(4), stick up for yourself(3), criticize yourself(2), feel stupid(1)

9. Do you find yourself wanting approval from others?

Never(4), rarely(3), sometimes(2), often(1)

10. Do you blame others for how you feel?

Never(4), rarely(3), sometimes(2), often(1)

11. Do you feel grateful?

Often(4), sometimes(3), rarely(2), never(1)

12. How long does it take you to bounce back from feeling low?

1hr(4), 1 day(3), 1 week(2), longer(1)


42 - 48: You are emotionally healthy. An appointment with me could allow you to open further to the abundance of life.

35 - 41: Be aware of the areas in which you are not allowing yourself to open and feel emotions. I can facilitate this with you.

25 - 34: Make an appointment with me and get to the cause of being emotionally shut down.

Below 24: Definitely make an appointment soon to honour yourself and live life more freely.

Shunyata has been open for 12 years now specialising in emotional healing with The Journey 
Brandon Bays, Oneness techniques from the university in India where over 2million people have awakened, Doterra pure essential oils which aid in feeling whatever is blocked, NLP
(Neuro linguistic Programming) and many more modalities that address you individually on opening your heart and soul to living a more full life.





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