Why Chose Shunyata - 20th Mar 2019

Why Chose Shunyata

1. Individual very one on one – let’s face it we are all unique and each person’s issue is different. Each person has a pattern of unconcious behaviour running them and fits into a different ayurveda prakruti – type.

2. Whatever is happening with your life right now – is somehow a wake up call for you to go deeper, to learn what your soul wants for you.  How are you out of balance?  What is
it costing you..  Are you serious about change right now?

3. Paru is an earth mother, grounded, calls herself spiritual but not airy fairy. Real life,
real tools, real healing.  She is a change agent.

4. Beautiful views, comfortable surroundings conjusive to healing. Not 5 star but nourishing and healing.

5. Whatever is going on with you – we get to the core. Whether is be a physical, emotional or a block of some sort – this is the fastest most effective form of healing getting straight to the issue.

6. Love, sometimes tough love, kindness, nourishment and support is what you need for healing. You are so special and that is how you feel here.

7. Over 30 years of being a workshop junkie and upgrading herself every year – allows Paru to get to the core of whatever issue is blocking you from truly living your potential.

8. Life is hard, but there are natural solutions and if you want to go the natural way then Shunyata is for you.

9. Specialising in shutdown, abuse being physical, emotional or sexual, depression, anxiety and relationships.

10.  Deal with the being of the person and bring back to wholeness body, mind and soul.

11. Are you sick of mediocrity in life and want to live a full life, then Shunyata is for you.

12.  The power of forgiveness en with the journeymethod and it's not just words, it's an energy that is powerful- it will shift the energy in your life to create magic

You will find most of these practices used here at Shunyata

email info@journeyessence.com or tel 03 3294773 or 0272 777734



What is the true meaning of Wellness - 18th Jan 2019

What is the true meaning of Wellness

Wellness in New Zealand



the state of being in good health, especially as an actively pursued goal.


The balance of emotional, physical, spiritual and whole health, not just addressing food, but the pyramid of what doterra says and then add to it Meeting unmet emotions and bringing awareness to unconcious behaviours (enneagram), and coming to a true forgiveness process of hurts and shutdown.

doTterra’s Pyramid of Wellness

Eating right
Rest (Being) & Managing Stress
Reducing Toxic Load
Informed Self Care and Self Care
Proactive Medical Care

Wellness promotes wholeness of Being

then to be totally free in your emotions by feeling them organically especially unmet anger, sadness and grief and clearing out childhood trauma, the main cause of addictions and disease today as per Gabor Matte
Moving from an unconcious state of being (the enneagram patterns) to a higher self – the essence of who you truly are.


About Paru

Paru has been instrumental in bringing thejourneymethod to New Zealand 15 years ago working for over 14 years at Shunyata Retreat and Day spa getting the core of people’s issues with thejourneymethod, ayurveda, yoga, meditation and doterra’s pure CPTG high vibrancy oils.People who have been in counselling for years – find an end to so many issues with The Journey.

anxiety, stress, depression, low self-esteem, chronic anger and rage, physical illnesses, addictions and unhealthy behaviours, sexual or physical abuse, relationship problems and procrastination and career underperformance.

We don’t work with the mind, we work with the body and soul and the being. I feel so blessed, humbled and truly grateful to help eleviate suffering in this world.


Book your Ultimate Healing Day or 3 Day Ultimate Bliss Retreat today or contact Paru on how to
get these amazing high vibrancy oils for emotional health.

Tel or txt  0272 777734 or email info@journeyessence.com



Couples Counselling in NZ Retreat Format - 9th Jan 2019

Couples Counselling in NZ Retreat Format

Couples counselling/Relationship coach

Have you just got married and want to start this relationship healthily with freedom and unconditional love?
Has your relationship lost it's spark?
Have you shutdown on each other and feel a deadness?
Have you got mistrust and jealousy issues affecting your relationship?
Are you carrying hurts that cannot allow your heart to flower?
Are you being really honest with yourself and your partner in this relationship?
Have you lost intimacy?
Have you dreamed of living a more tantric  and conscious relationship?
Do you dream of finding the love and passion again?
Are you sick and tired of the same stuff coming up relationship after relationship?

Imagine time out for the 2 of you, catching up, eating beautiful prepared food looking
out over the ocean, reaching a depth of intimacy that you never imagined.  Imagine not
carrying those hurts anymore and being truly open and honest with each other.  Imagine
speaking to each other, My beloved I feel your fear........ Sitting together in a 3 course romantic dinner in sheer bliss, then after laughing together from an amazing video on true love,
retiring into the gorgeous hydrotherpy bath.  Your relationship deserves this..........

conscious relationship is a romantic liaison where both people feel dedicated to a sense of commitment towards growth.Most relationships are run from unconcious patterns, based on romantic pursuits, full of fear and seeking to please the other and asking the other unconciously to provide happiness.  The normal scenario when the honeymoon is over and the relationship goes downhill. When you become concious you become aware of habitual, addictive, thinking and ego patterning  and make a decision  to take responsibility and not blame the other.

Did you love Married at First Sight, would you love to understand your pattern of why you sabotage relationshipsm - the enneagram work addresses this.

Life's stresses of making money, raising your children kills chemistry between couples. Everyone is living in the masculine domain of life of achievement  and no wonder relationships are failing.  Come and find out what the true secrets are for being sexy for your man or woman on a deeper and more sustaining level


Relationships can break down  when the men will leave from fear but won't admit their fear and the woman will stay longing for something to change but is too scared to leave the relationship because she is addicted to love even if it's an untrue love.  Hence no-one is serving the other to rise in love and not fall.  There is so much more beyond the romantic love and at Shunyata we help you discover this.

Imagine a relationship where in her open heart and his consiciousness  all her jealousy, anger, pain, hurt and sadness get burnt  and a woman brings him present by cultivating his masculine not emasculating him with her incredible intuition and energy and feeling pleasure. Imagine him living his true masculine force, being present, trustable and in truth and her living her powerful feminine force with an open heart, showing him when is off and opening in pure devotion when he is on.   When  these two energies meet, you get a real sense of shiva and shakti dancing and the world truly needs this love.

This is my deepest prayer for all to live this higher love and if you truly want to stop the old patterning - it is available to you right now.  

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You know you want to work it out so you've come to the right place otherwise you'll just carry
the baggage to the next relationship.  Give your relationship that break to truly come home
and start a new way of loving.


Spend a romantic weekend getaway or a more deeper 5 days that you will never forget!  When it comes to a couples retreat Shunyata Retreat and Day Spa will guarantee a true heart opening. Shunyata Retreat and Day Spa is the place to come and be nurtured in a safe, healing and neutral environment. The work is first done on your own with The Journey and enneagram (ego patterns) and then when you have resolved your own patterns individually we then counsel from this place.

We have recently added some amazing doterra  blends of oils and of course pure cacao chocolates that will send you wild.  So it's decadence, delightful and delicious to
open in this love - The 3 course romantic dinner usually is the highlight of the retreat served
on the deck overlooking the ocean.


Paru first of all studied with David Deida and his partner, acknowledged as one of the most insightful and provocative spiritual teachers of our time in the area of sacred intimacy. She has done many workshops on tantra and sexual healing  She has over 15 years of healing sexual blocks with cranio sacral and  she is deeply passionate in bringing couples to a place of deeper, unconditional love in relationship.


Emotional Intelligence with The Journey and Doterra essential oils 12 Feb Christchurch - 28th Dec 2018

Emotional Intelligence with The Journey and Doterra essential oils 12 Feb Christchurch

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80 % of our illnesses and addictions are caused by emotional imblances -
Most of illnesses and addictions are caused by childhood trauma, unmet sadness, grief and anger

Our emotions affect our behaviours, our responses, our choices and even our perceptions.emotions are a connection point with others, nature, humans and ourselves. But to truly feel takes a lot of courage and you have to be brave. No- one really taught us at school how to be healthily with our emtions

We are either dramatising them, running from them, numbing them out or agressing and dumping them. Most people are escaping from them, cause if they feel the highest joys, then they must be feeling the deepest of pain. Feel the good and run from the bad but unless we meet the dark side we will never be authentically in the light.

Some of us lose ourselves or wallow in our emotions, with a story that can’t let go and it takes a compassionate witness to observe the ever changing world of emotions.Someone who feels safe to feel.

If we truly feel our emotions fully, they can pass through the body quickly and you will feel refreshed, cleared out and released. But sometimes we go over and over the story from the head and this causes suffering. We keep the problem in place with the story. We can also manipulate the emotions

Some feel great and some feel truly uncomfortable like weakness, vulnerability, unworthiness, unloveability, insecurity, shame, humiliation and fear. We judge them good and bad.

How we feel them can be a game of inflation like bullying, blame and domination
Rigidity – holding onto them by hardening, shutting down and denial and putting a wall around heart.
Deflation – hiding out, introversion, collapse, narcotising, and passive resistence.

All of these behaviours can be associated with depression.

If we open into the core of any emotion and burn through it, we will open to peace, our source, our essence of our being. Even school kids can do it. Not catharting into pillows , this is different = Opening silently into stillness and totally feeling the feeling, the experience is liberating and lasting.

When we truly are there we come out of the head and into the heart.  We are in bliss cause
we reach the essence of our being.

Paru will be holding a free evening  on how to deal with emotions healthily with the journey and doterra high vibration essential oils.



Detox Retreat New Zealand - 28th Dec 2018

Detox Retreat New Zealand


Do you feel a toxic overload after all the December celebrations?

Do you want to start 2019 with energy and lifeforce?

Do you want to get your eating right for your ayurvedic constitution?

Do you want to heal both physical and emotional blocks and start 2019 in style?

Do you want to drop those extra kilos as a bonus healthily?


This time of the year it’s hard to get back into healthy foods. To do this on our own is tough. But if the intention is there and someone will do it for you and you’ve made your mind up – then Shunyata is the place to come cause it is more than a physical detox

Ayurveda is the most ancient form of healing and truly gets to the core of the body mind soul balance. The liver cleanse allows the body to get back into rhythm along with yoga, meditation and the soul work with the Journey, you are brand new ready to truly enter 2019 in style.

Imagine being next to the ocean, doing yoga on the deck, listening to the birdsong and finding your mind come quieter every day. Imagine it being all about you. Imagine clearing blocks thathave stopped you living your highest potential.



If you can’t make it to Shunyata – Paru has the best Cleanse and restore progamme from doterra that cleared her candida for good and can put you onto this with the right protocol.


Email her @ info@journeyessence.com to find out more.

Tel 03 3294773 or 0272 777734 and speak to Paru today




What is True Spirituality - 17th Nov 2018

What is True Spirituality

Google says

the quality of being concerned with the human spirit or soul as opposed to material or physical things.

Shunyata means empty pure mind

This was what I had committed to when I changed my name 30 years ago in India to Paru -Fire of Love – committed to dedicate my life to meditation and the watcher. Who would think what a fire I had to go through and still going through today, to discover my true self, and now live from that true self.

Best Spiritual Retreat in New Zealand

I can only talk about what Spirituality means to me on this 30 year journey and you may have had a different expeirence and that is fine – but mine has been down the path of the ego or not.What is the ego or the enneagram – it is unconcious behaviour that causes us the most suffering. What flavour of ego are you – so that when you are with a beloved master, like I am with Mooji today, you know your flavour. It might be a peacemaker or a drama queen or pride might run you or not showing up and numbing out – all these are patterns that run us. When you enter an ayahuasca journey and she works on your pride and arrogance, you know it is your egoic self. Would I recommend this path I went on, not for the light hearted, and truly could be done with a little less beat up on yourself, but yes I would recommend the freedom I feel today, the connection with the higher power and the movement beyond illusion into the truth of my being, living from the heart.

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Awakening to your true self – beyond egoic identity. What is this? Well this year my longing became deeper and deeper on my 3 month round the world trip. I did a silent retreat with Mooji in Holland in August and always wanted to live from this place, the heart, not go in and out of it, but truly be it and never felt it so deep within me. This place is effortless, connected, one, magic, pure and true. It’s the place where true magic happens and it is gentle, loving and alive. It is your true self. Grace has helped you through your yearning to be there and everything that is not this will show up. This has happened on my return to the world. I know my higher self shows up in the heart. But what has also happened is my work has become more precise effortless and deep, helping others discover this place. I always remember saying after leaving Byron Bay, I was given so much, now I have to give back. So going into service is the best way to give your self-centredness up. But my heart feels it has been through the washing machine, bruised I would say as life has bought me so many challenges on this journey of the truth of my being.

I got to ask Mooji in Massachusetts, what is the effect of consciousness on healing – and he told me – just keep doing what you are doing. What he meant was keep listening to The Invitation and comitting to this place in your heart and healing will be effortless also. WowI feel it, I know it and I love it even though I feel like I have been through the dark night of the soul. How can we be in the world and still have this commitment to truth?

On observing my clients for 13 years here at Shunyata, all I can say is that with the awakening on the planet, my upgrading of consciousness, the shifts are happening so much faster. I was 10 years in suffering in Byron Bay after losing custody of my child, and felt stuck, but when people come in despair now, that stuckness can be moved so quickly. Maybe it’s depression, they just need to feel the feelings they have been avoiding, Maybe addiction, meet the trauma they took the drugs for, or out of control anger, which a 17 year old met yesterday and was back to a trauma from childhood. It’s effortless when the longing is so deep to be free – it’s like existence is truly wanting this and somehow I have been given the tools to accelerate it.

The Journey method is amazing, I feel so blessed to be given this process cause it can be done by anyone, not necessarily someone on a spiritual path. In fact the more innocent and deeper the suffering and despair, the more profound the process. Many people who have read all the books on spirituality have collected concepts, ideas of what is meant to be, not the actual experience of meeting the truth inside of your being. Their intention is great, their longing is great to be free, but they haven’t actually had the experience. At Shunyata we give you the experience and as the 17 year old discovered yesterday, it is easy and it works.

Mid Life Crisis – Who Am I?
Most people who come to Shunyata have come to that question as they see the old patterns
are not working. Who are you? Who are you really? Have you ever wanted to know something deeper within your being? Why are you here? What is your purpose? These questions we often ask when we get tired of living the old way of the ego.

Meet the unmet sadness, grief or anger or deep childhood trauma or abuse and you will feel this freedom with the journey and then go on to truly be who you are – your essence, your higher self with The Invitation – Mooji Baba (beyond meditation) It works, it works.

Our purpose changes and deepens as we go deeper within. At the recent Doterra conferenceI just got a message from my divine – saying you are in this world to help eleviate suffering. Funny cause suffering as been my journey and my mother’s so your worst self can be reversed to be your best.  Don't you want to live the best version of yourself.

If you want to know more about the retreats at Shunyata and Thejourneymethod,The enneagram, Mooji and all my beloved teachers and of course the high vibrancy of Doterra Pure Essential Oils -Please go to be my website

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The oils I use for deepening my spiritual higher self and assisting on this awakening path are:

Rose Touch - The Oil of Divine Love (to stay in the heart chakra)

Arborivitae – The Oil of Divine Grace

Bergamot – The Oil of Self acceptance

Frankincense – The Oil of Truth

Geranium – The Oil of Love & Trust

Hawaiian Sandalwood – The Oil of Sacred Devotion

Melissa – The Oil of Light

Spikenard – The Oil of Gratitude


If you want any of these oils – you can open a wholesale account with 25% discount



or email me info@journeyessence.com if you want to know more about getting free oils



Addiction in New Zealand - Getting to true cause - 16th Nov 2018

Addiction in New Zealand - Getting to true cause

Unmet Childhood Trauma & Emotions

When it comes to cause of physical and mental health problems, most experts agree that unresolved emotional issues play a significant – if not primary – role in the vast majority of cases.  In order for healing to occur fully at the cellular level, the underlying emotional issue needs to be addressed and resolved.  Journey therapy – with the enneagram, used at Shunyata Retreat can truly get to the core.It’s not the addiction – it’s the person and usually trauma from childhood or unmet sadness, grief or anger. Shunyata has been working with addiction, depression, sexual abuse and anxiety for over 13 years now and Paru feels when people have tried everything else – then this truly works. Combining The Journey, The Enneagram (patterns of unconcious behaviour), Ayurveda (the most ancient form of body balance and healing, Doterra pure  high vibrancy essential oils – we can get to the core of why it is in place.

What is the Journeymethod?

Essentially, journey therapy consists of a gentle, guided introspective process that enables you to uncover and access painful emotions and memories – ones that have been trapped and stored in in the cells of your body over the years.  These unresolved emotions came about in response to trauma and other painful experiences in your life.

Once accessed, you and your therapist will work together to identify and understand how the current problems you’re experiencing, such as troubling behaviors and other issues, are connected to these memories and the painful emotions associated with them.   The purpose of journey therapy is to enable you to finally release these emotions.  This emotional liberation is what facilitates healing and allows you to experience positive changes in all areas of your life.The goal of journey therapy is to help you find peace and clarity, and to open you up to your “source” – the essence of who you are.  It enables you to break free from the limitations that have been holding you back.   Journey work makes it possible for you to move towards reaching your full potential in life – the potential that had previously been hindered by emotional blocks. Paru also works very closely with the enneagram which gets individually to the core of each persons patterns of behaviour, unique to them, that stops them living their potential and caused the  core of their suffering and then sets you up with The Invitation Home to your essence to keep up the truth of your soul..

Addiction & Essential Oils in New Zealand

Doterra pure therapeutic oils are also amazing for addictions and used together with therapies at Shunyata. Paru will check out what’s going on emotionally and also advise the right oils for the right addiction. Maybe it’s the fuzzy feel with eucalyptus, or the anxiety with lavender peace, or grapefruit in the water, or energy with peppermint – there is an oil to help you.

So if you are sick of rock bottom, full of despair and truly want to do the work, or know of anyone who truly is there, then Shunyata is the place to be. You will need to do the detox first and then you will be loved back to wholeness with great food, yoga, the purest of high vibrational essential oils, meditation, gorgeous views and peace for the soul. You will notice that the prices are very competitive ,if not cheaper than anything like it in Australasia.

Call Paru today 0272 777734 or email info@journeyessence.com

May all beings be free and happy!!!!!!!






Depression the Natural Way in New Zealand - 29th Oct 2018

Depression the Natural Way in New Zealand DEPRESSION NZ

Life is hard and the struggle is real and there are natural solutions!!!!!

New Zealand has the highest teenage sucicide in the world. Why? We live in god’s own country. Why are our youth taking their lives? What is happening with them emotionally, phisically and spiritually when they decide to end it?

The real cause of depression is a pattern of emotional shutdown and blocking of emotions caused some form of hurt, trauma or unresolved pain.

Who am I to talk about this?

My name is Paru and this subject is so dear to my heart as I also suffered a deep shutdown of 10 years when I lost custody of my child and the reason I came home after 27 years to help people. There is hope and after 13 years of running Shunyata Health and Healing retreat – I know that depression is an unconcious pattern of behaviour that includes deflation and collapse that drives us deeper into the black hole. It is not a mental illness,it is not an illness at all but goes back to an incident in childhood usually between3 and 8 that was a trauma and caused a shutdown in the cells which then continued an inflation in the personality that then was layered and layered with more shutdown and inflation.

Depression in New Zealand

With our emotions we either go into inflation, deflation or rigidity and the deflation is usually where there is depression.  Deflation and rigidity is anxious depression.  The enneagram types
tell us what pattern you are doing and how to move beyond it.  It is not about a quick fix with
a pill, it is getting to the root cause, the trauma that set it up an this is where the journey comes in.

I have worked with The Journey and the enneagram now for over 18 years, and 14 years in Shunyata on retreat,  every winter travelling and doing more extensive work and offering talks on this work and doterra pure essential oils. I have been amazed ,if the person is willing and so sick of the shutdown, that there is hope, ther eis a way to move beyond that fear of showing up in the world. There is a place out of the numbness and the darkness and a place that will set you free to be your amazing self.A place that is alive, scintillating and open. It is your birthright and with the awakening that is happening on the planet right now, it is a place that is happening more and more. It might take more than 1 journey to get there for some people, but sometimes all it takes is the willingness, the right timing and the feeling of despair that this cannot continue.  At Shunyata you get the one on one attention as we are all unique and have different patterns of avoidance. and strategies of not showing up and being shutdown so we can get to the core of your unique one. If we learn to feel our emotions organically without a story, then we are free.

Depression - The Journey Method New Zealand

There is hope, there is light and I would recommend you read this book Light in the Heart of Darkness Kevin Billet is out and free as an ebook right now on Amazon


Get your copy free for a limited time.

Depression and Essential Oils New Zealand

Paru also uses doterra pure essential oils that have such a high frequency to assist feeling thos emotions

The oil of forgive touch is very powerful for forgiving both self and others
The oil of Elevation to bring you out of the downs and lift you to bliss
The oil of Balance to keep the emotions in balance
The oil of Breathe or Easy Air to truly open up to those hurts
The oil of Console Touch to help feel that grief that has shut you down
Lifelong Vitality - the beyond vitamins - doterra's top selling product or you get your money back

These oils can be bought on my website  the wonderful wholesale price of 25% discount
mydoterra.com/shunyata  or email info@journeyessence.com on how I can help you

I simply love helping people move beyond depression and be free to live their true selves and then continue this, with an amazing technique that is beyond meditation.So if this calls you to come home to your true essence, your being and your true self to live a life of magic, abundance and pure unconditional love and aliveness, or if you know of someone that could
really benefit email me info@journeyessence.com

How to Continue this Work

Come to Shunyata for a day,  3  or5 days.on retreat in a gorgeous ocean view property, doing the work one on one with yoga, meditation, gorgeous healthy food and love and compassion
either on your own or as a couple.

 https://www.journeyessence.com/  or email info@journeyessence.com

Also  I am so excited that  Brandon is a returning to Auckland 25-27 January 2019 Kevin and myself will be having a talk on depression around this time  and your discount voucher is below. for the journey weekend.


May all beings be free and happy

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