Illness - Listen to Diagnosis but not to Prognosis - 7th Dec 2019

Illness - Listen to Diagnosis but not to Prognosis

Don't Give Up Hope - Your Body is a Miracle

Our body’s natural state is homeostasis – balance.
Our emotional natural state is causeless joy

Many years ago when I was in a deep state of suffering after losing custody of my child and was listening to a healer at an ashram in India,  I had this amazing knowing inside that anything can be healed, and 30 years later after working at Shunyata I can truly say I have witnessed the truth of this statement.

There are 3 levels of genes – first is DNA , second is your microbiome – the bacteria that live within you. The third level is the epigenome – a sheath of protein surrounding the DNA that regulates the activity of your genes. All play an important part in health.

So, if only 5% of gene mutations (error in the genes) cannot be healed (like Angelina Jolly's breast cancer) then all cancers, autoimmune diseases, heart disease and inflammation problems in the body are formed by our experience of life and how we interpret our experiences in life. That leaves 95% of illnesses can be healed as per Dr Deepak Chopra . Dr Gabor Matte, another known expert in body, mind soul balance says "most illnesses are formed by childhood trauma, unmet anger, sadness and grief.

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Our lifestyles, the daily choices we make along with sleep, how much we move, how nutiritious our diets are – all have an incredible influence over how the genes express themselves. If we change our conditioning, our conditioned mind (the enneagram), our belief patterns and how we experience our emotions – we can heal.

There is hope !
How much are you willing to use this as a wake up call?
How much are you worth fighting for?
So you’ve been told you have cancer or an autoimmune issue and how do you feel?
So many people give up there and believe the medical prognosis.
Listen to the diagnosis and maybe get a few opinions, but if you truly believe in the power of the body, don’t listen to the doctor’s prognosis – you have 3 months to live or you have to live with this for your whole life.  So many people give up here. This is a very powerful time in your life to wake up, to truly go in and to find out the truth of who you truly are and heal on a body, mind and soul level.

So you Have been Diagnosed with Cancer - The Truth About Cancer

How we are brought up with love or fear creates our conditioning. Our early childhood experiences have a great deal to do with why our body is out of balance. Our patterns of unconcious behavior usually are formed around 3 years old (the enneagram) then we collect series of beliefs ,which are truly cover ups for insecurity, from our upbringing. These create unconcious thoughts which can lead to disease, dis – ease in the body – away from wholeness.

To keep healthy we need

1.Good deep sleep
2. Meditation for stress management – questioning beliefs, body awareness, awareness of emotions and thoughts. The importance of dealing with stress which comes most from your unconcious behaviours (enneagram) 
3. Movement with consciousness – yoga is the best for this and for grounding
4. Breathing with presence - the breath is so important for anxiety & fear
5. Healthy emotions such as love, joy, compassion & equanimity (feeling at one with universe)
and breaking unhealthy emotions by feeling them totally -The Journey Method
like guilt, shame, resentment, anger and hostility. So they no longer run us. Some of these we don’t feel comfortable in feeling so they stay in our consciousness and therefore add to the disease. 
6. Of course the diet we eat, plant based, alkaline, free of preservatives cutting out sugars, eating according to our body type - ayurveda
7.  The power of forgiveness and also gratefulness.

The other thing that is important to look at – is how we deal with pain.As Rumi said - The core of pain – is in the pain. A natural human response is to be angry with our bodies instead of going inside and truly listening with compassion  - then the pain can disappear. 

80% of Illnesses are Emotionally Related

Then there is emotional pain which brings suffering and this is caused by Not knowing who you are, grasping to things that are not permanent. Fear of impermanence, identifying self with ego and fear of death.

We need to look into the hurts and hatred you are holding, where you are being insensitive, your craving to be loved and to love, your inauthenticity (where you have been lying to yourself either in illusion or denial), your judgemental nature, your ingratitude and your story telling by the mind to bring you to true happiness, causeless joy.

The Journey Method & The Enneagram NZ

Most of our physical and emotional suffering comes from unconcious behaviours and at Shunyata we empower you to take this journey inside. To look at these patterns and deal with the childhood trauma on a cellular level, the unmet emotions and the understanding of why you avoid them.Ultimate healing brings you back to wholeness, to your creativity, to your essence or your higher self. We need to reconnect to hope, to prayer to a higher power and get to the truth of our soul. Our path is now a spiritual path of truth, oneness, self discovery and conscience which leads to power. Prayer will bring you home, it will make the impersonal intimate. As we heal ourselves, we heal the whole.As we start to listen to our inner voice we are no longer concerned about what people think of us. We let go of the pleaser, the helper & caretaker and we fall in love with our souls and connect to our power, our creativity, our essence our higher self. We become the climate change inside and go on to touch other people so the whole world can heal.

A client said the other day - Why didn't I know about this earlier?  Why did it take a suicide attempt to wake me up?  Who know's but I truly believe in timing.

Alternative Healing Therapies NZ

Paru works with The Journey Method, The Enneagram, Doterra high vibrancy essential oils and protocols for illness- Symphony of the cells balancing the body physically, emotionally & spiritually with high vibrancy oils,  yoga, meditation, craniosacral balancing (to get in touch with the body’s wisdom and truth) and ayurveda (the most ancient form of body mind soul balance). The true healing happens when you are empowered  when  you are a participant in your own healing.  

You are in charge of your own body and it is truly a miracle - if you have chosen this natural route and this speaks to you  and gives you the hope you need
call or text Paru now 0272 777734 or email to
book your life claiming life changing retreat

The Enneagram Retreat New Zealand - Shadow Work - 3rd Dec 2019

The Enneagram Retreat New Zealand - Shadow Work Importance of the Enneagram in Relationships, Health & Wellness and Shadow Work

Ken Wilber recently referred to Shadow work - which is the work of unconcious behaviour.
Shadow Work is how you integrate the aspects of your unconscious psyche into your conscious experience and allow the positive aspects of the shadow to express themselves. When properly used and channeled, the shadow-self has traits that you can use to further your own personal development.
Many people on the spiritual path never address this part which is so important for true growth to take place.

Have you ever asked yourself the quintessential classic human question of identity, “Who am I?” Most of us spend a lifetime trying to figure out who we are and how we relate to others and the world in general.

Unfortunately, in the process of forming an identity, we succumb to building up lies and illusions around our sense of self that only lead us further away from who we truly are. The Enneagram offers a bright path to cutting through the internal clutter and to finding our way back to who we are created to be. It is
the best work you can do in mindfulness & awareness to be present.

Based on the nine classic archetypes of human character structure, the Enneagram exposes the nine ways we lie to ourselves about who we think we are, illustrates the nine ways we get lost, and reveals nine ways we find our way home to our True Self and to God. It explains the “why” of how we think, act, and feel, it helps us come to terms with our gifts and with the patterns that bind us to our greatest challenges.

What can the Enneagram do for me?
Many find the Enneagram takes self-awareness deeper than other profiles and assessments. The Enneagram reveals our best, truest self with its potential to heal a world in need. And as a tool for awareness, the Enneagram illuminates a path to developing our identity and spirituality.

Presence and gratefulness comes from an open heart and a present body and a clear conscise mind - your enneagram type at it's best.

The enneagram tells us what we do when we are not mindful.It’s a reminder to come back to self. You are not a type – it’s a form that our consciousness takes. It is the designed for  people interested in being awake and conscious and living the best part of themselves.The enneagram has to do with presence, being and loving the moment and the capacities we have living in the moment. It gives us the answers to why we don’t live in the moment.
Our greatest gifts are our qualities that come forward.  Paru calls it growing
up instead of growing old.

We are either in the body, heart or mind centre.
8/9/1 Embodiment
2/3/4 Heart Centred
5/6/7 Mind Centred

Here is a quick test freee of charge
The body centre has rigidity, stubborness and show us when we are not present in our body. When we reinhabit our body,we get a sensation and this is intelligence of the body. We feel in the body.

Heart centre or an emotional type can feel a shutdown, numbing out – we can feel distance from emotions. Or are Emotionally touchy, when buttons are pushed. We are in stories and need to come back to our heart where we feel this oneness and connection, kindness and patience.

Head centre can feel dull – I’ve abandoned me and proud of it – too much in the mind. When we come home to our head we are crisp, clear and present, attentive and quiet.

The Journey Method NZ

Paru works with these unconcious patterns to help you enter The Journey
method - an amazing guided meditation that takes you back to a memory
(usually childhood) when this first started or a trauma that stopped you moving
forward to your essence - your higher self.

After being a workshop junkie and studying with top leaders, teachers and  avatars in the field of awakening for the last 30 years - she believes
this is the best therapy for getting to the core of trauma, illness and unhealthy
behaviours.After observing people for 15 years at Shunyata - many blocks and illnesses address these patterns and The Journey brings people back home to their true selves.
Journeyessence means come home to your best self.

So don't delay - book either a one day
Ultimate Healing Day
a 3 or 5 day Couples Counselling retreat
or 3 days emotional retreat or
5 days detox and emotional retreat



The Importance of Emotional Intelligence in Healing - 15th Nov 2019

The Importance of Emotional Intelligence in Healing

Emotional Intelligence Leads to Deep Healing

If you are in touch with what is happening on the planet - November is the month that all our old patterns are resurfacing, our shadow side (our lower self) is coming up to be dealt with - no better time to be doing this work -
reconnecting to our higher self where we are truly aligned.

1. Heal the physical body

The body is the gateway to the soul and the mind and the ego are full of fear doubt and judgement. Most people are living in this space of the ego/mind and this is where all the problems are. So getting in touch and listening to the body is a crucial part of getting in touch with emotions. Because the body never lies – it speaks the truth. Have you heard of that gut feeling and when we don’t listen to it – well there is many of those gut feelings showing through and if we don’t listen to them then we can end up with physical illness so we can truly listen. In the enneagram/journey work that we do here in Shunyata, we establish your pattern of ego/mind disruption that is causing you your breakdown, your physical illness, your block or whatever is happening and then we go back to maybe a time in your childhood where this was formed, and with a memory we come to a forgiveness process (not from the mind but from the soul) and then that issue is dealt with from a cellular level. We should be taught at school – true emotional intelligence, How it is to be with your emotions and feel them totally and then they disolve, but we use every strategy to avoid them, eating them down, drinking them down, running from them etc. If 80% of our illnesses are emotionally related , especially us emotional types,wouldn’t it make sense to get this sorted.

2. Heal the Heart and the Soul

Well this is what happens after a journey process. Our heart’s have been shut down from hurts, I call this the heart shaped wall. We are living in a constant state of shutdown that is taking our lifeforce and doesn’t allow us to be our true selves. You know that feeling and of course you remember that feeling when it was to be truly open. Think of a child, who has none of these walls, how innocent, alive and spontaneous they are. You too can have this back inside of you and then live more from your true self, the heart and the soul. This is your essence and your birthright.

3. Release Limiting Belief Systems

With life knocks we develop limiting beliefs and from childhood we carry these even back to the womb where we absorb our parents. We then hold on to these beliefs and they stop all other possibilities. Another disempowering one is vows, vow’s have a lifeforce of their own and they shut down all possibilities and have noticed this in the 15 years of doing this work. It’s why when you make a vow in marriage – it’s hard to break. We need to uncover these and reword them into healthy beliefs and vows in the cells. The good news is we can change these, they may have served us in the past but for true freedom they are holding us back.

4. Increase Spiritual Awareness & Connection

Consciousness, awareness and a connection with a higher power is needed on the journey. Consciousness heals, consciousness is manifestation on steroids, consciousness is effortless – it comes when you have become aware of all the beliefs, vows, enneagram and ego patterns (unconcious behaviours). It comes when we stop being the pleaser, the helper, the unique one, the strong one by being aware of these patterns. We then awaken our spiritual connection with the higher power. We can’t do this alone, we need help – so drop the pride and reach out.

5. Inspire the Fulfillment of your Life’s Purpose

We all have a reason to be here. This why, this purpose is our life’s mission. When we truly are in service to something bigger, to our passions, to what makes us on fire – we are living our purpose. My purpose is to live the highest version of unconditional love in this lifetime and to inspire people to truly know their true selves. Their true selves is their essence, their soul – their higher self and my deepest prayer is everyone gets to know this in this lifetime – cause this is true fulfillment, this is true love, this is true wonder and beauty and everything. When we touch this part of you in the Journey – I feel such a gratefulness, I bring in the gorgeous sugar free wild orange fudge, and know my work and my life has a meaning.

What it means to live from the Higher Self - Conscious Being
You are at peace
You cannot be shaken from your centre
You have self knowledge
You empathize without judgement
You see yourself as part of the whole
You are not in the world. The world is in you
Your actions spontaneously benefit you
Your desires manifest easily, without friction or struggle
You can perform intense action with detachment
You are not personally invested in any outcome
You know how to surrender
The reality of God is visible everywhere
The best possible time is in the present

It's great to talk about this, but to really feel this has been my life's path.
You too can have this awakening.

At Shunyata we use the high vibrancy of doterra essential oils to help with this healing. Some people have blocked deeply their hurts on their heart, so easy air helps to bring them up. Some people are buried in a deep grief and sadness, so console helps them to let it out. Some people have buried anger and it’s stuck in the gut which can cause all types of gut problems. Some people have completely numbIed all emotion and don’t know who they are.The enneagram with the essential oils, helps to know the particular strategy and for 15 years Paru has been refining this.What I notice is that it comes to a time in life where these patterns of unconcious behaviour are not working anymore – so people either end up in a breakdown, an illness or something of a wake up call and then they come. But why wait till then, I watched my mother suffer for 25 years with stroke – I don’t want to waste this life – do you?

You can come for a day on an Ultimate Healing Day, 3 Days on Ultimate Bliss retreat or a 5 day detox, body mind and soul.

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The Importance of Preventative Medicine - 12th Jun 2019

The Importance of Preventative Medicine

How to Avoid Cancers and Many Illnesses

Just had news of 2 deaths of parents and a client die of cancer. My heart breaks for the people left and the determination to give up myself and my little problems and get educating people more how to love the body, understand it’s functionings and listen to it, connect with the soul, let go of the mind, learn to eat healthily per your ayurveda type learn how to grieve and to how to embrace death. This is all since my wake up call and watching my mother suffer for 25 years with stroke.

It makes me go back to my blog about the truth about cancer and add to it I am not going to tell you I know all, but in the 15 years of observing and being passionate about teachings and observing clients, I have learnt a lot.

The Truth About Cancer


  1. 48% of cancers are environmental and only 5% -10% are genetic – get your home chemical free and what you put on your skin

  2. Let food be thy medicine – alkaline, address ayurvedic type, cut out sugar and add more greens and cut down on red meat

  3. Detox- liver or colon – doterra does an amazing cleanse & restore that cleared my candida

  4. heal emotional wounds – 80% of illnesses are emotionally related – main cause of illnesses

    are childhood trauma, unmet sadness, grief and anger – all addressed with the journey and

    the eneagram (unconcious behaviour patterns) – get emotionally intelligent & forgive

  5. Bring in plant matter with doterra high vibrancy pure essential oils - frankincense & DDR prime and Lifelong vitality a must and then other ones according to the cancer

  6. I will add some other tips beyond that blog, take time to be – meditation and learn to be present out of the mind, fall in love with the body with yoga – to truly listen, do some craniosacral balancing sessions with doterra cbd oil -copaiba to truly listen, meet your inner child and develop relationship, go back to anyone in your life who you haven’t forgiven and come to a true soul forgiveness, take stress out of your life (so easy when you understand enneagram type which creates stress), develop a relationship around death so you can surender and not fight, discover your soul, your essence your true self and stay true to it,find a way to take away money worries so you can truly concentrate on you – abundance is needed when you are ill. Sell what you need to and stop working.Make you as a no. 1 priority and understand through the enneagram what patterns have run you and caused this cancer. So many things are attributable to being ill so I have just covered some of what I have learnt, surround yourself that believe, that trust that have beaten 4th stage cancer and know that it is possible for you

For the people who are left, believe me as per many people who have had near death experiences, the light they go to is amazing. They don’t want you to suffer, they want you to learn from them and go live totally. If you have done the soul’s work in this lifetime, your transition is smooth and you go straight to the light, so don’t stop waking up and discovering your true self. Use these beautiful beings as your teachers, go do what they didn’t do and live for them and then you are doing yourself and them a huge service.


The True Secret on How to Live Pain Free Naturally - 9th Jun 2019

The True Secret on How to Live Pain Free Naturally

My deepest wound in teenage years was my eating disorder. I had no idea at the time that I could trace it back now to the tragedy of my parent’s divorce – I took to food as the feelings were overwhelming – I could never purge or stop eating, I loved food too much so I just ate and ate to keep the feelings of abandonment, sadness and separation down.

Fast forward a few years with my wake up call around 30 – losing custody of my child and I had to go in and do the work. It was amazing to go back and truly face the hate I had for my body, turn it up and finally feel free – was like coming off a cocaine addiction – I didn’t need to continue this yo yo of stuffing my face and dieting. I used colour puncture, and then went on to find dance therapy and yoga to fall totally in love with this amazing body of mine.

This began my incredible journey into the magic of healing the body and the soul. Luckily was living in Byron Bay at the time, the mega for this work and became the workshop junkie . Tried everything you can imagine,
including the most revered work I do today 30 years later which I studied in India - Craniosacral Balancing.  I picked the most profound and came home to put it into my retreat 15 years ago and Shunyata was formed. So researching people, watching bodies, working on bodies and updating myself solidly by overseas jaunts – I can truly pass on what I have learnt about

the wisdom of this incredible body.

Next chapter, 5 years ago, after asking what is stopping me waking up – I  came down with candida. Not an easy journey for a foodie, so enter Doterra Pure High Vibrancy Essential oils – took the symptoms away with wild orange and got real with eating and with the Cleanse and Restore and a few other things – became Candida free. My lesson here was physical pain and suffering, and having compassion  for people who had to live in pain permanently, as it wasn’t my issue in the past – most of my learnings were emotional.

The mind is full of fear, doubt and judgement, the body knows, it just wants to be listened to deeply and compassionately and this can lead us to soul’s advancement which is cellular and true.

How in touch are you with your body?
How empowered do you feel when you get sick to heal or do you go to the medical profession?

Don’t get me wrong – there is a place for the medical profession, they can repair bones and so many things – but so much can be dealt with by you truly listening. Your body is a miracle – this quote by Osho

The body is the greatest mystery in the whole of existence. This mystery needs to be loved – it’s mysteries and it’s functionings need to be inquired into.   OSHO

How do we do that? Well at Shunyata you will discover your enneagram type – either emotional, body or mind type – then we will address your relationship with your body and after doing the Journey process with the doterra high vibrancy oils that help you emotionally, you will see the wisdom that is shared, then we do a craniosacral session with these incredible  oils (even have one that works like medical marijuana) , Copaiba with the high content on cannabinoid but totally natural, that will address the issues, and listen more deeply to it’s functionings. The miracle of the plant knows, is done with an emotional aromatherapy energy session what is going on in the subconcious. Miracles can happen.

Yesterday -  got a call from a client who couldn't walk on her foot.  She was about to spend a lot of money
on special shoes, but we went into the foot, listened deeply with the oils, and did this a few times, she has
never had this pain back again.  It happens so often and my deepest prayer is no-one has to live with
permanent pain in their body, it can be cleared naturally.

Knees that are going to be operated on with yoga exercises is another amazing shift. Phobia cures of all sorts lifted for good with NLP. Pain in body that has been there for years – finally put to rest and things that you never thought could be addressed – uniquely dealt with depending on your enneagram type, the right oil on the right place and the compassionate listening and your longing for closure. Healing takes 2 – I can’t heal you alone, but if you and I work together we can create miracles.

So the cheapest, most empowering journey you can ever take is home to the wisdom of your body and this will save you thousands in later years.  You wake up with you every day - your body is worth listening to as it
speaks wisdom and truth.

Come to Shunyata and learn the true wisdom of this incredible body and soul and take it to help others, come for a day, or 3 days and learn emotionally and physically this tool to have for life.
or or 0272 777734




Wake up calls are the best thing your soul can go through - 8th Jun 2019

Wake up calls are the best thing your soul can go through

Benefits of a Wake Up Call


Who would think today that I could say – going rock bottom allows you to become a better person.

My story was 10 years of deep suffering when I lost custody of my child, 30 years ago – and at the time I wouldn’t have wished it on anyone but this is how much time I needed in my stubborn way to really wake up. I remember ending upside down in the river after the car skidded and hearing “Wake up – I’m going to show you this year out in style”.

Forward 15 years ago, finding the most amazing therapies in Byron Bay from being a workshop junkie and getting the push to come home and open a retreat, Shunyata was formed – a haven for people going through this wake up and wanting to get back to life. It’s been amazing, 15 years of helping people just like myself, growing with them, studying non stop in so many different ways and observing so much and learning from it. I feel blessed to help people find their true selves, their higher self.


What does this mean? Well we are all living in unconcious behaviour patterns formed in childhood  that cause us the most suffering in the world. They are repetitive, but somehow if you want to learn, and evolve, they get better, but never do they totally leave us, they just don’t run us so much. When we do the Journey session, you uncover these unconcious behaviours, you get it and see how it has run you and with courage and vulnerability – you meet your true self, your essence – who you truly are . It’s magic and I could never give this work up, cause my why, my purpose is to help eleviate suffering in this world.

Dr Gabor Mate, one of my mentors in body mind soul balance, says “Most addictions and illnesses are caused by childhood trauma, unmet sadness, grief and anger and this is the work done here at Shunyata. We uncover a memory that is stopping you living your true potential and it allows freedom after a forgiveness process around a campfire, not from the mind but from a soul and cellular prospective.

Amazing interview on the key to overcome tauma

Paru has been working fulltime with this work now for 15 years and has become an expert on the Enneagram – unconcious patterns and can truly help you get to the core of what is stopping you living your true potential..
The journey takes you on a guided meditation to clear out a block or trauma on a cellular level,, we do an emotional dropthrough (feeling the emotion totally) then we come to a forgiveness process around a campfire
and cellularly this issue leaves the body. Mydeepest prayer is that people live a total life and that means meeting their dark to have more light and be the best version of themselves.
Excellent work for depression, sexual & physical  abuse , low self esteem and unworthiness, addictions, unhealthy behaviours, relationship problems, procrastination and career underperformance.
The beauty here at Shunyata is it's not in a big group, it's uniquely one on one and works with YOUR SOUL
your awakening which is special to you.

Freedom is your birthright - May all beings be free and happy

Your deepest fear is your gift  or your nemisis -  it’s time to face it and be free

come for a day – Ultimate Healing Day or a 3 day retreat in gorgeous Banks Peninsular and come home to who you truly are or tel 0272 777734 or email

space available now until 23 July then again from 22 September

Why Empaths & Highly Sensitive People Can truly Benefit From Doterra Essential Oils - 5th May 2019

Why Empaths & Highly Sensitive People Can truly Benefit From Doterra Essential Oils

Essential Oils 

I have run a health and healing retreat and truly do take on the energy of others.

Doterra Oils

After doing an extended retreat for a girl who couldn’t lose weight 4 years ago and after being triggered by my own old eating disorder, I was flat, my candida symptoms flared up so bad that I couldn’t face people.I went up to Nelson to a festival that my friends were running and voila, doterra again showed up in my life. This time I took the reading, got wild orange which is the oil for childlike innocence and abundance and fantastic when you are feeling flat from other peoples emotions – and instantly the heaviness lifted – I could eat again and soon after booked out the retreat for the month and bought the whole pack. Now you have to have an experience that is real right to know something for sure.4 years down the track, where would I be without doterra. Watching my clients – yes it’s us empaths that need the oils the most. We get affected by smells, they pass the limbic system instantly and with the high vibrancy of doterra’s oils – we heal fast. We are the one’s that instantly love these oils and feel the purity and the effect of the body, mind and spiritual balance.

What is an empath or HSP

Empaths are highly sensitive individuals, who have a keen ability to sense what people around them are thinking and feeling. Psychologists may use the term empath to describe a person that experiences a great deal of empathy, often to the point of taking on the pain of others at their own expense. Those of us who are more sensitive/empathic have a more sensitive  central nervous system. And are energetically more vulnerable to environmental stressors- EMF’s, noise, light, other people’s emotions and physical pain.

20% of the population fit into this category as per Judith Orloff’s book The Empath’s Survival Guide. But what she doesn’t mention – is how important doterra’s pure essential oils are for survival. That I have discovered from my own experience and on running Shunyata Retreat for 15 years and observing people through the enneagram and The Journey.

Why does Doterra’s pure essential Oils Work for Empaths

They hit the limbic system really fast which most natural solutions take so much longer, and I don’t know about you, but I have always been impatient with healing – so something that is purely natural that works really fast works for me. The limbic system is a part of the brain that controls the major functions of the body and has a huge impact on the emotions and emotional memory (it is also responsible for sparking nostalgia through certain scents). When the limbic system  receive the oil’s message it responds to the request and takes action, whether that be to heal the body, calm the mind or both. The plant know’s.When affected by the energy of a hectic world, the idea of waving a healing wand to rebalance and recharge is a most appealing idea. And this is where essential oils come in. They bring the body back to balance.What I also love is the oils empower you to use your intuitive ability to know what is right for you.This is what the world lacks right now, people trusting  their own body’s amazing healing ability and the oils help you to connect with that. Sensitiviy can rock in this new paradym that is advancing in a more feminine form, this new energy that is coming to the earth and for which we can be part of.

This new consciousness, this new reverence for the planet, this new love of heart knowing and us empaths have a huge part in this, wouldn’t you like to be balanced in this way to help.

So if you are in service to other people’s healing these oils will help you beyond anything to be there and also to top up for you.

Here is my favourites and I will stand behind the fact that the high freqency and the purity of these oils are next to none, so they are beyond therapeutic.

Balance – The Grounding Oil – spruce, Ho wood Frankincense, Blue Tansy, Blue Chamomile and Osmanthus

My mother was bipolar and I am not but I defintely had the mood swings and this oil on the soles of the feet daily truly helps me keep my emotions in  balance.

On Guard – The Protective Blend -Wild Orange, Clove, Cinnamon, Eucalptus & Rosemary

Say no more, not only does it protect you from nasties, but builds up the immune and protects you from energy zappers.  Can help strengthen your energetic field to create stronger resilience, stronger boundaries

Oregano –Very powerful for boundaries can help stop parasitic energy.  Can assist with healthy digestion and supports healthy respiratory function. May help support a healthy immune system. Useful as a powerful cleansing and purifying agent. It was one of the best for saying goodbye to candida.

Serenity Restful Blend  or Lavender Peace -Tranquility Lavender, Cedarwood, Ho Wood, Ylang Ylang, Marjoram, Roman Chamomile, Vetiver, Vanilla & Sandalwood– can be a useful aid for those struggling with anxiety, stress, over thinking. It also can help you connect more with the self, connect with your own inner calm. So great aid for those of you who struggle to meditate, be still. I love it for my perfectionism – a chill pill. The sleep fantastic.

Whisper Blend For Women – femininity jasmine, ylang ylang , vanilla, cinnamon and cocoa.  Useful to support any unresolved issues you may have with your femininity, mother, grandmother or other close women figure in your life. Useful at helping ease unreleased anger. Us women need to own our feminine core in the new found age of the feminine. This has been my work for over 20 years – thank you David Deida. The qualities of the feminine are trust, patience, surrender, being instead of doing & receptivity.

 Purify –Protects against environmental threats such as EMF’s and toxins. Can help clear the air and negative, stagnant energy in your home. Like doing a sage clearing – so important here at Shunyata with all the energies and healing work I do.

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How to Save Your Marriage - 22nd Mar 2019

How to Save Your Marriage

At Shunyata
You will come back to the essence of who you truly are and become
The Lover you have always longed for!

I deeply  believe we all crave the deepest forms of romantic and sexual intimacy. We want to experience a love that is pure and unconditional. We want to truly  worship those we love and we want to be worshipped in return. I believe we innately want to be able to share what is true in our hearts and be met with compassion and understanding, without being made wrong or told we need to change.  I believe we all want an amazing sex life that blows us apart and makes us want to be alive.

If your relationship isn’t working – then life isn’t working. We all have heard of the heartache and the turmoil involved in marriage breakups, I know myself having been through the family law court and losing custody of my child.


Has the spark gone?
Are you at rock bottom?
Does one of you want to make it work and not the other?
Have you tried counselling and still not moving forward?
Do you both want it to work and rekindle that love?
Do you truly love your partner but can't seem to make it work?

For 14 years Paru has  worked with couples  bridging  the gap with qualities of the feminine and  masculine to create intimacy, the dance between consciousness and love..  We bring back the masculine of Presence, Claim & Penetration and the feminine of invitation, surrender & expression of being

conscious relationship is a romantic liaison where both people feel dedicated to a sense of commitment towards growth .Most relationships are run from unconscious patterns, based on romantic pursuits, full of fear and seeking to please the other and asking the other unconsciously to provide happiness.  The normal scenario when the honeymoon is over and the relationship goes downhill. When you become conscious you become aware of habitual, addictive, thinking and ego patterning  and make a decision  to take responsibility and not blame the other.

We work with the enneagram – unconscious patterns that cause the most suffering to self & others
We work with The Journey method – the most amazing guided meditation to take you back to a block or childhood trauma that is stopping you move forward now in life
We counsel one on one and together– deeply using these tools to help you open up to love again
We provide tools to respark the love again what attracted you in the first place
We move beyond romantic love to a true sense of trust again and openess with each other
We bring the intimacy back and refind truth
We work with the highest frequency pure essential oils – doterra to help you open to a deeper love and reclaim the masculine and feminine for intimacy
We provide amazing delicious, decadent opening tantric practices to bring love alive again
We finish with a 3 course romantic dinner that you will treasure


Healing of the soul

Shunyata is one of the greatest experiences i have ever had. Not just because of the amazing food Paru made, or because of the absolutely amazing scenery from my bedroom window.. but because of the fact that going to Shunyata has changed everything.. in an amazing way. Straight off the plane Paru's energy blew us away and we were so comfortable from then on. Her love and energy is given in everything and you truley feel that. I can honestly say after the most rough year of our relationship, Paru has helped my partner and i fall in love all over again. I was sad to leave.. but if you are reading this then please believe me when i say this is a healing experience you will not forget. 

Thank you Paru, we are so grateful to have met you!!! Aroha nui

SoulfulL bliss & healing

Kia ora koutou katoa, Well where start,

For starters i am a typical egotistic male and i thought this would of been the last place on earth i would of ended up being a mans Man and all!!
But in desperate times men look for help in strange places and in this place my partner in crime and i have found the peace deserved with calm souls.We thank you paru for your beautiful teachings awesomely delicious food and warming hospitality with the morning yoga and evening meditation by a warm fire truly an experience needed by most would recommend this to anyone problems or not well worth it.
we arrived with no expectations and a open mind & heart,in order to get out what you want to find and let go of you,yourself have to ask the questions do i really want to do this? Or is it another poor excuse im giving myself to say NO I've tried that it doesn't work! because thats what I've always told myself and facing those very demons that I have been fighting and feeding my hole life i finally had the chance to face on level ground now these demons have no shadows to hide in,I am on track with me, with my wife and my children,thanks again Paru for giving me the tools to bring me to the present moment.

Nga mihi arohanui.


Her pattern was tragic romantic – so she has taken out the tragedy and turned it into a service to a higher loving for all. Paru first of all studied with David Deida and his partner, acknowledged as one of the most insightful and provocative spiritual teachers of our time in the area of sacred intimacy.   She has explored masculine and feminine energies for 30 years. She has done many workshops on tantra and sexual healing  She has over 15 years of healing sexual blocks with the journey method & cranio sacral and  she is deeply passionate in bringing couples to a place of deeper, unconditional love in relationship. She specialises in sexual abuse with the journeymethod and helps people open after shutting down in intimacy. Her deepest passion is to serve a healthy healing love and many of her clients have become dear friends today.


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