What is Pure Love - 30th May 2020

What is Pure Love The True Meaning of the Purest Love

I had no idea when I went to an Ashram in India in the 90's that my search for love was so
intense ,and on going back several times over 10 years I truly saw a lot of the catholic guilt
and shame being released from me around sexuality and then continued this masters of the
true meaning of love for the past 20 years.

Somehow along that path I discovered the enneagram and became fascinated with the
suffering my mother went through in her life and the similarity we shared and decided  to
live her legacy and be the best version of her and myself in this area of love.  so when the course came up with Love and the Enneagram, there was no way I could not do it.


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Be the Change you want to see in the world - Ghandi

It’s possible to have love become YOUR way of being... in all your  relationships, in your vocation, and in all your actions in the world. When Gandhi was serving as a force of love in the world, for example, he understood that love is a spiritual path, a practice, a way of life — and that love is our only true identity.

What is LOVE? Most of us assume we know the answer...From the moment we’re born, though, society actually gives us many  wrong ideas about love.For instance, that love is an overwhelming powerful feeling... often sweeping and dramatic... or perhaps mushy and sentimental...And so fear, attachment issues, wounds, and emotions are actually what many of us mistakenly describe as love.

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What if you redefined LOVE as something you become — rather than something you feel or receive?What if we all cultivated a deeper understanding of what real love is?Not only would our lives change for the better — the world would change,too.

The ancient, multidimensional wisdom of the Enneagram, which I have been addicted to for the
last 20 years, the healthiest addiction I have,  helps to guide you to understand what love is — and what it’s not.It reveals the nine ways each of us (unconsciously) distorts love, depending on our Enneagram type — usually from a fear-driven place of ego or separation.

The Enneagram shows you the way out of your delusions and helps you leave behind the suffering of isolation...... and move into relaxed, abundant, creative, and authentic love, intimacy, and connection with ourselves — and with everyone. Imagine exploring the power of embodied love and relatedness and what it can do in your life — and for life on earth.

the 3 Stages of Love:

  • The journey towards love (searching for love as if it’s outside of ourselves)

  • The journey with love (seeing love as a guide in all your relationships)

  • The journey as love (developing a way of being that’s living from love in every moment)

Love isn’t just from the heart, it operates in the 3 centres of the body, head, heart and body and generated from intelligence, clarity, action and presence in the body.The miracle of love is self acceptance and a mirror of non-judgement,.  The power of  forgiveness can release us from our fixations and love gives us the best chance to become the person you most want to be in the

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On my journey with the Enneagram at the beginning ,on bringing awareness to my patterns and
fixation, I did a not of judgement of self and always looked to the negative traits and now 20
years on, I am realising that we do have a human side, we are not perfect but truly heading
towards this best version of what we want to be.  Over the months of this course, something
deep inside has changed in my version of love.  Being an emotional type, I always related to
heart and love but am discovering so many gorgeous traits of each and everyone's uniqueness.
I have been blessed to be around children and bringing out their best as their patterns are established at such an early age, and coming to forgiveness with my siblings cause their way
of experessing love isn't the same as mine.

This has prompted me to write this article, and if you feel moved then come and do a retreat combinng this amazing ancient wisdom of The Enneagram with The Journey method - which is a guided meditation to take you back toa block or trauma in childhood and coming to a soul's forgiveness, will be the best thing you can ever do for yourself in this lifetime.  Lets face , proven over and over these are the top 5 regrets of the dyng

  1. I wish I'd had the courage to live a life true to myself, not the life others expected of me. ...always caring what people think
  2. I wish I hadn't worked so hard. ...  and was more present with my loved ones 
  3. I wish I'd had the courage to express my feelings. ...and ultimately create more love & intimacy
  4. I wish I had stayed in touch with my friends.- and realised who was important 
  5.  I wish that I had let myself be happier. - and found causeless joy inside

Covid has brought up a semi death of the ego and these patterns of survival and now is the time to set yourself free.and come home to the love that you truly are.Come on a 3 day Ultimate Bliss retreat and a tour of presence after, or a 5 day detox or a Couples Return to Love 3 or 5 days

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Retreat in New Zealand then Spiritual Trip South - 24th May 2020

Retreat in New Zealand then Spiritual Trip South

Why Kiwis Should Visit South Island after lockdown and Aussies Come Over

Why Not Combine a Ski Holiday or a breathtaking road trip with a Retreat where you leave your baggage behind.Many years ago I travelled the rockies in Canada and realised, with playing the most beautiful music, and holding presence,that trip stayed with me for years.   After doing
the Journey at Shunyata your mind will be quiet and you will experience pure presence.
Well this presence took me through the south last week with the same feeling and know that people will never forget the trip they have with me in the van, the beautiful essential oils, the best music and rituals and the most beautiful walks, scenery and sheer perfection of our gorgeous country.

Spiritual Retreat/Journey NZ

Ok, I can say I am an authority on travel, having left NZ at 18 by boat to England and travelling for 27 years, 20 years of that a travel agent. Yes I will be honest, I usually leave every winter but have come to accept that this year will be different. NZ beauty is waiting for you. I can also say that I have travelled nearly all of New Zealand and absolutely love and want to celebrate this beauty with you. We live in a gorgeous, gorgeous country, winter, summer, spring and autumn. I am on fire creating your itinerary for after the retreat.

Flying into Christchurch I can put together an exciting itinerary for you, best doing the retreat first.In the penisular surrounding Christchurch – there is spectacular scenery and the day trip I do to Akaroa via the wildness of the coast is breathtaking, maybetaking in an amazing maori museum and/or stopping at a sacred beach on return. The other excursion I offer is Castle Hill which is 1 1/2 hours from here and could be combined with trip south – the Dalai Lama quoted it as the spiritual centre of the universe https://awol.junkee.com/the-dalai-lama-called-these-nz-boulders-the-spiritual-centre-of-the-universe/41237.The moment you arrive at those mountains, your breath is taken away.

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Just arriving in Christchurch, with the rebuild after the earthquakes, we have a foodies paradise and believe me – I am one of those foodies. So will recommend the best restaurants and 
places to stay.

Here’s some rough itinearies – but with minimum of 2 and max of 4 we can adapt.

Come and do the 3 day Ultimate Bliss retreat at Shunyata or any retreat

.Day 1 – Drive through centre stopping at hot pools in Tekapo overlooking mt cook arriving in gorgeous Wanaka by the lake – scenery mind blowing
Day 2 - choice of day trip to queenstown with bungy jumping or adventure jet or ski treblecone or cadrona

Day 3 – gorgeous day trip taking in all the short walks through the rainforest on the road to the west coast – simply breathtaking overnight Franz Joseph glacier

Day 4 – Home via Castle Hill and Punakaki rocks

There is another trip north taking in Hamner Springs, Nelson Lakes for skiing or walks, Abel Tasman national park then back via Kaikoura with option for whale watching. 4-5 days
Whatever we put together, Paru will make sure it has meditations, rituals,music, gorgeous essential oils and scenery that will take your breath away.Presence and no mind is the only way to travel and this trip will stay with you for life.

So get excited – start planning now that lockdown has finished. The snow has already fallen on our surrounding mountains so feel it will be a great ski season. 6 June is start of many ski fields and some at the end of June. this trip can be varied, finishing in Queenstown if you want to ski.


Namaste and may all beings be free and happy after a holiday of a lifetime because you are worth it 
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Wake the f..........up - 7th May 2020

Wake the f..........up


COVID is a global meditation retreat which noone signed up for.

Are you sick of hearing how you shoul be!

Well one thing you would have noticed is that all the corruption is being exposed and the world isn't going to be the same.  I am not going to give you advice on how to be but tell you this is the chance to be the best version of yourself to show up in this new world and make a difference.

How did you use this time?
If you haven't already , you will bow down to COVID19 with gratitude for having this time and space and pause.  Stop, wait and listen.
Do you want your power back - your soverignty?
Are you sick of doing the same shit and living in the society that is the cult?
Your soul matters, your essence matters! 

When we stop and be still – we have to face the dark, our shadows, our ego – the parts of ourself we don’t love. So I am sure many unmet feelings are coming up at this time and you don’t know how to deal with them. Believe me – emotional intelligence was never taught in schools and should be on the curriculum, so you are not alone.


At Shunyata we will bring you to your soul, to your essence, your purpose so you can take this and make a difference. Yes you will need to go into the fire and burn what is not you – yes it takes courage,but here you are held in a safe embrace to do this – so what is beating inside of you comes out alive to the world. You will experience a freedom beyond ego and personality to show up as your true self. You will wake up a dormant fire in your belly and claim back your lifeforce and you will take back the power of your divinity.Yes you need to be vulnerable – but this is true power, and you will never look back.

What is Ego, Persona, Shadow, Lower Self

According to Jungian analyst Robert A. Johnson, “The persona–or ego–is what we would like to be and how we wish to be seen in the world….The ego is what we are and know about consciously. The shadow is that part of us we fail to see or know.”

While each type has strengths and strong points, each type also has a shadow—aspects of experience, thoughts, and feelings they remain unconscious to. As aproduct of ancient spiritual and wisdom traditions, the Enneagram is an “objective”map of both the patterns associated with waking consciousness—and shadow aspects we remain unconscious to. By helping us see, own, and develop our blind spots and disowned feelings, the Enneagram supports us in becoming conscious of all of who we are and manifesting our highest potentials.

Why We Should Meet Our Shadows or our Dark Sides or our Egos

1. Because they are loaded with treasures and gifts about self – when we meet the dark,we have more light.

2. It is a shadow so it is leaky, somehow it leaks out or spills out in reaction not response.

3. It wants to be seen, it wants our love, to be accepted and integrated by us – it is a part of us.

4. It takes a lot of our lifeforce – to keep it shutdown – we use so much energy –draining on energy

5. It's not bad, it had a very good reason it exist, to keep us safe and to get love and sustenance . It has been our persona and our mask but to truly grow up we need to bring awareness to it to let it go.

6. Often the dark side of ourselves – is the nemesis of the gifts and the purpose we could be living. So we can use it to truly know our life purpose.

7. It brings us back to our power and our authenticity

8. When someone says drop your ego, at least you know your flavour. We are not all like Donald Trump,
some of us are people pleasers and scared of confrontation.  Some of us are addicted to helping others.
and some of us are tragic romantics - living in deep lies of what love is.

These shadows or dark sides were formed early in life around 3 years old and they are defence mechanisms to feel safe. They are behaviours that we form in relation to our environment. Maybe,as our parents are our main caregivers at this time until we go to school, they are usually in reaction or similar to the parents. For myself in my family of 5 – there were 3 that ended up like my fatherand myself who ended up like my mother, but that does vary.

Emotional Release Work Helps Resilience

When trauma or crisis happens in life or in relationship we go into powerlessness (masculine reaction) and unloveability (feminine reaction). We then can react or respond. We need to unblock these emotions as they can cause illness and more addiction, shutdown and disassociation. I have often said, as per Gabor Mates work – the unmet sadness, grief and anger ,what he proved in the many years in his work, was the reason for illness and addiction.

I have just finished an online ISTA convention where  I too had to meet some blocks around my son. So 
yes this work never ends but it brings such a self compassion and aliveness and passion back that I 
truly can't wait to share it after lockdown.  I honour my humility  and courage to never knowing too much - to the love of this aliveness and juicyness of my own being,  so I can be a true inspiration to others.

When we remove the veils from our heart we become one with the world.


Emotional Release Work You can Do in Your Bubble

1. Put the person who you have an issue with in front of you in a pillow and dialogue

2. Put on music and shake through that emotion – move the body

3. If you have a scream inside put your both hands over your mouth and scream

4. Grab a large pillow and thump out anger on the pillow but be careful not to hurt yourself.

5. If there is grief – open our your heart, lean back and moan out the sadness and grief on your chest

6. If you have essential oils – use breathe and console for grief.

7. Use breath, sound, movement and awareness.

It is hard to do this work on your own and it is hard to do a journey on your own without being held to your highest, so either come to Shunyata on a retreat or ultimate healing day or  I will eventually do a zoom on emotional work at some stage.

The difference of doing the work at Shunyata, is it is very one on one, not in a big group and you truly matter, you are seen beyond your shadow and woken up.When you meet the heartbreak, the pain of where you have not lived and you crack this open – you come home to an aliveness that is the best addiction you could ever have. beyond healing – it is beyond personal development.

The Soul of the World is Whispering for us to Come Home

This is beyond the fear of survival - it is true awakening and if this speaks to your soul I hope to meet you on your journey  



Huge Changes for You and This Planet - How to Stay Strong in Your Sovereignty - 1st May 2020

Huge Changes for You and This Planet - How to Stay Strong in Your Sovereignty


Reclaim Your Sovereignty

Who are you?
Beyond illusion, beyond the surface of your mind and your ego patterns.

Deep dark old truths will be moving through you and the bullshit cannot continue. When truth is revealed and the shadow is seen we are set free. The coronavirus is just a name for a huge change on this planet and how are you, for your future,going to make the most of this time.

You must be truly seeing changes taking place all around in your beliefs, your values, your judgements. Old ways aren’t working anymore and now is the time to rise up.

What do you want to let go of? What do you not miss? What is changing in you – what do you like about this time. What is important in your life. What is happening in your relationships that you can’t tolerate any more?I am so excited about the truth being revealed as I believe meeting this dark and this truth will create more light.

What are your passions, your deep loves that you haven’t had time to explore?The tumult of emotions between fear and love have been showing. You can’t play nice person or people pleaser anymore – the truth will win out. You will meet an identity crisis, truth will win out.  Through all of this there is a centre, and it is
your true self.

The definition of suffering is not being with what is. Let’s get real people thepredictions are – this is not going to be over tomorrow. Surrender to the change, accept that what is happening is for the higher good, for our planet and clarity will be revealed. Chaos is going to stir up untruths

At Shunyata you will be held in tough love to explore your true self. You will meet your true calling and what you are meant to be in this next chapter of your life. What values are important and how you can maybe make difference in your life and maybe the life of others by finding your purpose,your gift.

People Who Would Benefit from Shunyata

Someone who has an illness and wants to know everything naturally to support healing
Someone who is going through a crisis in this lockdown and wants clarity
Someone who wants to raise their consciousness and connect with the great abundance
Someone who has tried everything to heal and just wants true freedom

and so so much more.......

You can come for a day – Ultimate Healing day, 3 days Emotional healing retreat or 5 days or more detox body, mind and soul or my favourite couples counselling retreat. . We will be ready from mid to late May to help you on your journey home.

You are love, loving and loveablke, stay strong in your Sovereignty







New Zealand is Paradise to Visit after covid19 lockdown - 25th Apr 2020

New Zealand is Paradise to Visit after covid19 lockdown

Why Kiwis Should Visit NZ after lockdown and Aussies Come Over - 


If you are anything like me you are starting to get restless and want to plan your trip this year

Ok, I can say I am an authority on travel, having left NZ at 18 by boat to England and being away 27 years, 20 years of that a travel agent. Yes I will be honest, I usually leave every winter but have come to accept that this year will be different. I can also say that I have travelled nearly all of New Zealand and absolutely love and know why I am everyone’s friend when I travel overseas. We live ia gorgeous, gorgeous country, winter, summer, spring and autumn.

Why Not Combine a Ski Holiday with a Retreat where you leave your baggage behind

I am being totally honest here, I am not the expert on skiing, but have visited many ski places and have a friend from Montana who know’s NZ ski places the best of all. But flying into Christchurch I can put together a gorgeous itinerary for you. Just In the penisular surrounding Christchurch – there is spectacular scenery and the day trip I do to Akaroa via the wildness of the coast is breathtaking. The other excursion I offer is Castle Hill which is 1 1/2 hours from here and simply breathtaking in winter. The moment you arrive at those mountains, your breath is taken away. The Dalai Lama has quoted it as the 7th highest energy vortex of the world and when leaving there the energy we feel is amazing. Just arriving in Christchurch

I can offer my favourite new restaurants and tips as they say the new  Christchurch is a foodies paradiese.

Best NZ Holiday After Lockdown

I would combine the centre of NZ via Tekapo and sit in the hotpools overlooking Mount Cook. Head to Wanaka or Queenstown – takes approx 6 hours from Christchurch and head back via the west coast taking in the gorgeous walks between Wanaka and the west coast, or head to Mount Hutt or the smaller mountains near Christchurch and maybe take the east coast drive via Kaikoura to Nelson and take in Abel Tasman Park..But whatever your time line – I can help you.  I used to say Wanaka is the Byron and Queenstown is the gold
coast - but your choice.

Here’s a great 2 week itinerary you could take highlights off and add to.



Here's my suggested itinerary for holidays with presence where I take you in the van

Maybe arrive in Christchurch and do the retreat and then travel or leave it till last. But your holiday will be even lighter if you do it first. Then fly out of Queenstown after skiing Wanaka or the mountains of Queenstown.Having travelled and being a foodie – if you come to the retreat first I can give you my favourite restaurants, favourite day walks and favourite places to stay. The travel agent in me has never left me so knowing the south island so well, I can truly help you out, something I always was grateful for overseas.

Plan your Post COVID 19 Trip in New Zealand

So get excited – start planning in these last days of shutdown and then when level 2 starts we can get going which for New Zealand is around mid may if nothing changes. The snow has already fallen on our surrounding mountains so feel it will be a great ski season. 6 June is start of many ski fields and some at the end of June.
If you are no skiing - there is still so much to see and do.

What would suit for you at Shunyata

Ok a 3 day retreat as a single or couple – can be any day and is working with emotional issues with the journey and the enneagram taking you to your highest potential.

A 5 day plus retreat will include a detox, body mind and soul and add the emotional work.as well but not so much – i.e. only one journey not 2 but extra can be added.

I recommend for couple’s a 5 day as it becomes more of a holiday where we can combine a day trip. You do the work individually then we can talk, cause one journey can be equal to 1 year of counselling.

The amazing thing about Shunyata is you can come anytime and as it's so unique and small and one on
one - we can adapt the perfect retreat for you.  We have an ozone sauna - proven for viruses, a hydrotherapy bath, a chi machine, a tachyon cocoon, a vibration fitness plate and so much more to help you get
fit and healthy, not to mention the coastal walks.

Ok get excited, get planning and so so looking forward to welcoming you to Shunyata this winter. The fire will be going and we will cook up a storm for you with all food intolerances dealt with. Whatever you need – call out – I am a born nurturer and adventure traveller and will make your NZ experience or for kiwi’s – your south island experience one to remember and when we do the healing - everything looks and feels better. Shunyata is the retreat where you leave your baggage behind.


Then check out the cheap cheap campervan rates and get a comfortable one for the cold and go freecamp in our paradise or contact Paru to visit sacred sites


Namaste and may all beings be free and happy


How to Deal with Trauma After Covid-19 - 18th Apr 2020

How to Deal with Trauma After Covid-19

How COVID-19 is bringing up unmet Trauma

What a time and test of humanity this virus has been. Many of us will face recovery from the psychological trauma of having lived under chronic uncertainty, isolation, financial insecurity, job loss, and for some, the death of friends and loved ones—taken together, enough trauma for a massive mental health crisis. The trauma, like the virus, will not simply disappear. For some, it will continue to linger in our memories, daydreams, and nightmares. What can we expect and what measures can we take?

How are you feeling?  Are you an empath like myself and feeling the larger trauma felt by others?

My story with Unconscious Trauma While in Lockdown

Here I am a therapist and been working on myself for 30 years and decided to take this time to really get real on losing some weight. My response or reaction, unknown to me, cause it was in the subconscious, was to get into amazing control. I escalated in my enneagram type to the no. 1 and in full control to the point of eating lettuce leaves one day, another doing 500 calories and trying lecitin free, intermittent fasting with keto, liver cleanse, doterra cleanse,you name it over the 4 weeks did everything, got a consult for imbalanced pancreas and thyroid. Nothing and I mean nothing would shift this weight. I finally  tuned into my body when I realised it must be emotional (being an emotional type, most of our problems are emotional) and went on to do deep belly breathing with the oils and voila, yesterday it revealed itself on listening to the enneagram course.

It was the trauma, that I thought I had dealt with back from childhood, when my mother and father split and how I used food to protect. This armour now became real, I could feel it around my solar plexus, that was stopping me from breathing deep into my belly. Wooppee – what a relief, I can go on and be free.

How Do We Deal With Unmet Trauma

This time I knew I could deal with this for myself from the years of helping others. I went back and was there for the little fat girl, I was there loving her and telling her she was safe. I sent arrows of love into that armour to break it and promised her she was safe. Spent the day with her, loving gentle and broke the armour slowly. Being an empath and not knowing the collective trauma we are picking up, I felt moved to write this article to help anyone who is also in a state of unknown what is going on. We, as therapists sometimes think we have done the work, got the teeshirt on the issue, and still it comes back until a true forgiveness and completion happens.

My mantra came up again - “The more we know the less we know”

Once again humility and gentleness needed, but what a relief I felt to truly get to the core.

Addiction in Traumatic Times

Food, like so many of us, has always been my drug of choice. We are all addicted in so many ways. I have learnt to love food so deeply, and was so pleased through loving my body to come clean of this horrible addiction and be able to eat normally. But this time the exact extreme response happened, and looking back that control also doesn’t work. I love food, I know how to really appreciate the taste and now am going on to completely be free.  I am celebrating, I am feeling so grateful and want this for you too.

What Trauma is COVID-19 Bringing Up for You

You need to trust someone to do this work. You need to feel safe to do this work, butwhen you do it, when you meet it and are free from it, it is the best freedom ever. As I navigate my  enneagram course we are learning the strategies each type goes through in the case of trauma. The behaviours we play out in the unconcious. I feel totally ready, humble, and a safenet for you to clear yours from a cellular level.

It brings me back to Brandon Bays story, when she got the tumor the size of a basketball, it was also a trauma she felt she had dealt with. Hence the Journey was formed.

What Freedom you Feel After Doing this work

Imagine having a holiday this year in New Zealand at  Shunyata  where we will provide a safe and nourishing place for you to move beyond this and be free. All I can say is you feel amazing. You can then go on to revel in the nourishment and nurturing that Shunyata is famous for. The great healthy delicious food, the walks along the peninsular and the laughter, fun, smells and dancing and celebration of life.

You can sit in the gorgeous ozone sauna, have a hydrotherapy bath with the oils and go deeper into stillness with cranio and all the gorgeous extras shunyata provides.  We can take excursions to castle hill and the
gorgeous peninsular drive to Akaroa. The fire will be blazing and you will feel the freedom that I feel right now. What a holiday you can have in New Zealand where you leave your baggage behind. Do this for yourself, you won’t regret it and I look forward to welcoming you home into the arms of your true essence. Shunyata is a retreat that is unique and you won’t regret it.

https://youtu.be/s8nFACrLxr0  Finding Joe   Inspirational video to learn the benefits of growth during hard times

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=hwIdMEwiBik&feature=youtu.be  New video on Shunyata done before lockdown

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New Video released on Shunyata - 12th Apr 2020


Retreat NZ

People who know me or not , people who have been to Shunyata or not, from my heart to yours I have this video. I am so happy this was done before Lock Down and in the collaboration of doing it with my beautiful friend Monique and her boyfriend Alex – the most amazing camerman, who loves his creativity like I do,we had so much fun, laughter, healing and great food making it.It seems like a distant memory since all of this covid19 stuff going on, but it has kept me going and for this I feel so grateful. Ihope you enjoy this and share it
with your friends who could benefit with the work at Shunyata if they live in New Zealand after lockdown.

How are you all in this time? My heart is with you for whatever is going on but one thing I always remember is “Everything that comes to us is a gift from God” and we will see why this needed to happen for our gorgeous mother earth. Whether you believe the conspiracies or not, this  is not about beliefs, my work is for your growth and where you will go after this time. I hope from the deepest part of my heart that your soul is stretched and your heart muscle is also stretched, cause all there is is love. I hope you are ready for self enquiry and feel not too bad in the unknown.

Yes I feel blessed for all I have and for how I have been taken care of and grateful for the work I have done
continuously on myself that helps me in these testing times.. Maybe that is not where you are at, but I promise you if you don’t see it now, you will see the gift eventually. You will strengthen in your sovereignty and know what and who to trust. You will know the truth within your soul.

What is happening is 80% of the trauma that is coming up now is past trauma. 20% only is attributable to this COVID19..

Everything we do here at Shunyata will help this.
If it is physical, the ozone sauna which is proven – breaks viruses.
The stress it brings up with the body work - being essential oil massage or craniosacral balancing.
The emotional work with the enneagram and the journey for the past traumas and emotional balancing and for getting clear for the your next step.
Yoga for the breath and calming and of course meditation.
Our survival mechanisms are being triggered which are the enneagram types – so presence, self love and compassion are needed and this is what this work has given me.

My daily routine involves

1. Some form of exercise and connection with nature, the earth that loves you.  I love dancing wildly in the morning, yoga and walks.

2. A balance of doing with jobs to get done and being, just stopping and being still.

3. A form of giving back – I love cooking for the neighbours and blogs & posts on fb.

4. Some form of creativity – mine is updating website & cooking.and exploring new healthy recipes.

5. Following your passions and giving them to self – music, growth and food.I am doing Expand Your Ability to Love Through the Enneagram 

6. Healthy body, mind and soul – minimalise news feed – just enough to keep informed doing healthy eating plan.

7. Finding time to speak truth and sharing with loved ones from your heart, the vulnerable place, all that has not been dealt with in busyness of life. Increase connection for deeper intimacy. 
8.  Use essential oils to boost your immune, help in emotional states and just keep your environment pure
and clean and assist with self love  

9. Go into 10 qualities of a person who you want to be and start being that.

How can you get bored. If you are bored with self, what do other people think.

.“In some ways traumas are the keys to your life”. And, “Find a love that isn’t afraid of the trauma”.

On this Journey alone in my gorgeous retreat – I found this amazing video around The Hero’s Journey which will help you at this time and will spark something that you need to do for yourself and your life.  It is
a great watch for 1 hour 20mins that will trigger something inside.

https://youtu.be/s8nFACrLxr0  Finding Joe 

Maybe you are wanting to start afresh.
Maybe you can’t go back to the life you were living.

Shunyata is the place where we will hold your hand in love and help you on your next step forward.If you are in New Zealand - very soon this could be your stayvacation for the year and believe me it will be the best one ever.    A vacation where you leave your baggage behind.
We will have the fire going, we will be cooking up a storm, we will meet you where you are at and take you forward to be the best version of you for the future.



1. What is truly happening in your life and what is your enneagram type so I can help you

2. The journey online to clear the block that doesn’t shift

3. How I can help you move forward in your life in your emotional and physical way.

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ANOTHER HUGE NAMASTE - I greet the highest part of you and look forward to meeting you
or seeing you again

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Get the Juice Back in your Feminine Being with Shunyata & Doterra - 27th Feb 2020

Get the Juice Back in your Feminine Being with Shunyata & Doterra

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We, as women, have become very masculinised. What does this mean ?we are competung with men in the workforce, Success is being revered and we are in the mode of doing all the time.We have become too busy in life and have no time to slow down and self nurture.

Your sexual energy, if alive, is your life force, your kundalini your health and vitality.  If this is healthy then making love is the sacred union between two souls, where when you orgasim, you lose yourself, your ego and connect with the one.  Why wouldn't you want this for  yourself.
There is so much more to sex than people are experiencing.and when we are own our rightful core, then we can experience the wonder of this.

The qualities of the feminine are needed back into our lives nd bodies for us to truly radiate as light and feminine beings

they are

trust, surrender, patience, receptivity, being instead of doing.

A beautiful woman who is rested, feels pleasure in her body, has a balance in life of work and pleasure can radiate light to the world and heal the world with her love and heart. So what is stopping you living this juicy feminine in your life?

Relationships are breaking down and many woman are ending up with feminine parts being damaged by such things as endometriosis, cysts on ovaries and women are not having pleasure in their sexuality owing to:

1. accumulated hurts and shutdown
2. Sexual trauma
3. Shame around their sexuality
4. Lack of body love
5. Disconnection from their feminine parts.

Which of these are keeping you from living a juicy feminine life?

It’s time to come home to the radiance  of you as a woman to share love with the world!


I am post menopausal and felt that my journey began with the catholic upbringing of shame.I felt sexual and felt bad about it. I didn’t realise going to Osho, when he had left his body,in the 90’s that I was deconstructing that shame into lifeforce, kundalini and went on a mad journey of finding god through sex. Living in Byron at the time, I was blessed to have David Deida shift our community from hardened woman and wimpy men, and after 4 years in a  feminine group doing  integrity work – I came home to open Shunyata. I found this gorgeous feminine side and felt blessed.

So for 13 years now I have been helping couples in their relationships and single women own back their feminine core, through the enneagram and thejourneymethod (the most powerful therapy  for sexual abuse) and recently the most gorgeous pure essential oils with doterra.

So if you can't make A Return to Love retreat with your beloved or Ultimate Bliss on your own
at Shunyata before the end of June when I will leave for the summer, do yourself a favour and get the book DEAR LOVER from David Deida and get these amazing oils wholesale on my
mydoterra.com/shunyata or email me @ info@journeyessence.com

Cinnamon – The oil of sexual harmony – supports body love and sexual abuse

Rose/Neroli/Jasmine – the delicious feminine oils for the heart (especially rose touch) - watch this amazing video on feminine juicyness and doterra

https://www.doterra.com/US/en/empowered-life-series-daily-wellness Dr Zia Nix only she is the best.

Passion – say no more to rekindle feelings of excitement, passion and joy.

Whisper –  divine feminine. This oil will replace your perfume and I guarantee you won’t go back. It is the blend for femininity, and wearing it will help you balance your masculine and feminine energy. If you’ve been rejecting your femininity and not accepting that beautiful, natural, creative part of yourself – than this is your oil to start to embrace and awaken it.

 ClaryCalm – This oil is amazing.l! Our very own women’s blend for women experiencing irregular or lack of cycle, hormonal breakouts, extra heavy flow or ridiculous cramping/bloating/gas. known as ‘The Oil of Vulnerability’ because it supports us during our most sensitive and emotional time of the month, and through our transition into menopause.

Geranium – This beauty in a bottle helps stimulate the adrenal cortex – which assists with balancing and regulating our hormones, as well as relieving anxiety and stress relief. This is a gentle oil that can be used with bubba’s too. Geranium helps us trust, forgive, open  up, and is a Queen oil for healing the heart.

 Ylang Ylang – “Oil of the Inner Child” Encourages freedom, playfulness, heart-healing and joy. Helps you drop into your playful, light-hearted self and assists in connecting you to your intuition and your ‘hearts knowing’.






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