Don’t Give Up on Love – A Healthy Relationship is your Birthright - 15th Mar 2021

Don’t Give Up on Love – A Healthy Relationship is your Birthright

It breaks my heart to observe many people who come to Shunyata have given up on relationships and love in general and are adamant that love does not work for them.They shut down their heart and continue living a half life.Love is the most important thing on this planet and when we shut down on just a very narrow prospective of the huge power of love we never get to taste the nectar of the highest form of love inside of ourselves.

This topic is on how you can grow with a partner to rise in love for your relationship but also for the higher good. If you haven’t heard this before, we are in relationship to heal our childhood wounds or wounds collected in life from previous relationships and until we feel these wounds, expose these wounds, we will keep moving from one relationship to another collecting more wounds and protecting ourselves again and again adding to a wall around our heart called the heart shaped wall. When we live behind this wall we are doing a great disservice to ourselves,life and our purpose, cause it takes all your lifeforece to keep this wall up.

This shutdown happened to me 30 years ago in Byron Bay. I had a my deepest wakeup call and the most painful experience ever and I feel I gave up on life for nearly 10 years. Something in me didn’t want to give up on love – so after a group in India called Path of Love and the Journey method where I forgave my ex husband ,in came David Deida to town,  who is and was the world relationship guru specialising in openeness in relationships. I finally met this deep wound and opened and learnt the importance of openenss in life in general.

To have a meaningful and deep relationship with someone – we need to honest with our feelings and be vulnerable and to expose these wounds is very painful. The only way to do this is to feel in a safe place and to be truly kind to ourselves, to our inner child and to be honest. But the payback is worth it, with this courage we can come home to ourselves and clear that wound for good by feeling it and exposing it. This is emotional intelligence which is taught in The Journey method. Vulnerability and truth creates TRUE INTIMACY. We then RISE IN LOVE.

Embracing our vulnerability is very risky, but owning it with courage is the only way to come back home to ourselves. Allow yourselves to show up and let yourself be seen in this vulnerability. Vulnerability is true strength and yet we have patterns that are stopping this. When you really expose your wounds you feel this oneness and connection with the other. Unless we deal with the pain, we carry it into the next relationship and are more guarded and test the other person. We become controlling so it won’t happen again.

Ask yourself where is my deepest woundedness inside?
Do you feel rejected, abandoned or someone died and a huge hole is left inside?
Maybe in childhood you were not seen or accepted for who you truly were?
Maybe everyone was too busy for you?

These wounds come up in all relating with all people not only in relationships.

Recently I had my ex parnter’s grandson to stay and he was reactive and angry and abusive when I asked him to do something for me. When he became this way – I was triggered and on reflection and meditation I discovered that my whole childhood was fraught with violence and anger and I had made a vow not to have this in my life. I noticed in my life I would hang out with peaceful people who also hated confrontation and when that anger would rise, I would react back with anger or shut down. On going inside and being very kind to my inner child, I opened and cleared this wound and was so grateful for him bringing it up.

How do you defend against your vulnerability?
Do you become mistrustful, critical, attacking or do you disappear ?

We build our protection this heart shaped wall around our heart not to let anyone in again and it takes all our energy to keep it in place. Relationships are the mirror so why avoid them if we truly want to evolve in this lifetime?

At Shunyata we go back and give kindness and compassion to that inner child to the one that truly needs it and she feels safe to come back out of hiding. She can be that love so she doesn’t need to keep seeking on the outside.

If this resonates with your being either come for a Ultimate Healing Day if in Christchurch or a retreat at Shunyata alone or with your partner.  Go to my website and chose which path you want to take on this journey of love.

Paru has just started up a free fb group and would love you to join us.

Healing that truly Works - 3rd Mar 2021

Healing that truly Works

Tired of your health and wellness issues being treated as a one size fits all?

Would you like a tailored program that addresses the root cause to your physical, emotional, and spiritual issues?

If you answered Yes! Then Paru and Shunyata Retreat is your answer.

Shunyata Retreat and Day Spa was founded by Paru Clarke in 2005. It is situated in an untouched paradise called Diamond Harbour on Banks Peninsula, only 45 mins from Christchurch, New Zealand. Shunyata is different from most retreats and unique in its offering. First, it is very one to one, no big groups: just you looked after individually with a maximum two people. Secondly, the retreat offers you a true wellness holiday. You will find uninterrupted vistas endless ocean views, holistic harmonizing rituals aimed at reducing stress including mood-enhancing aromatherapy. Thirdly, the menu is packed full of delicious and conscious cuisine with seasonal ingredients sourced from the garden and the local grower’s markets which are then prepared and cooked with love.

Shunyata was birthed as Paru’s passion is helping people through a personal journey of self-restoration by means of love and nurturing. In fact, Paru’s dream was to create a safe and holistic place that she wished was available while she was on her journey of inner healing. The services and treatments offered at Shunyata are a result of Paru’s experience, training, and personal journey.

Paru is not her birth name but it was the name given by her master in India in the late 1990’s. With the emphasis on the Pa means Fire of Love (and not the Maori meaning of the name). Like most people she had a dysfunctional childhood with an alcoholic father. She was a girl with a sensitive soul, and she had blocked out her childhood memories. When she was old enough, she took off overseas to get away and did not return home for another 27 years. Paru, like many people tried to run away from her emotions; some stuff them down with an addiction of sorts, some try to numb them, but eventually life catches upon you.

Her wakeup call came when she was in Byron Bay over 30 years ago. This was the beginning of her ten-year journey of healing the inside. It was time to get real, uncover and face the memories that she had blocked. Over the ten years she sought and did everything she could to bring inner healing and wellness to her life. It was not long before I know that I was being called to do something more significant. This journey was not just about my healing and wellness. I was being trained to help others. Finally, thanks to a teacher who pushed me – it was time to come home to help other people and establish Shunyata.

On her return to New Zealand, Paru introduced the program The Journey by Brandon Bays and has been working with developing her own style, ever since. The Journey, is a cutting-edge international healing method used to uncover, retrieve, and restore lost or trapped memories or emotions. She also uses the Enneagram which is a system of personality types and offers profound insights into the way people think, feel, and behave. Whatever illness you are dealing with, Paru will get to the core on a physical, emotional, and spiritual level using the journey, the enneagram, craniosacral therapy, and high vibrancy essential oils. All facets of the mind-body approach are experienced to help rediscover your spark you both mentally and physically. This enables you to recentre yourself from your low-level instincts driven by survival (the enneagram) to your higher instincts driven by the power of love.

Covid-19 and lockdowns are impacting on our physical and mental health globally, due to the added stress, anxiety, and fear due to living in an uncertain world. Paru will be travelling throughout New Zealand later this year and will be offering her services in the comfort of your own home. For those who cannot take advantage of her house visits or attend the retreat, she is available to work with you via skype. To take advantage of Paru’s services contact her via mobile on 0272 777734 or email

Feel free to connect with Paru in her FREE private Facebook group called Paru’s Empowering Wisdom for True Wellness. Paru covers topic relating to physical, emotional, spiritual wellness

on a deeper level. Everyone is welcome to join to interact and share your wisdom as well as collaboration is the new way to go.


To learn more about Shunyata Retreat and Paru visit





Best Therapy Ever for Sexual Abuse New Zealand - 27th Feb 2021

Best Therapy Ever for Sexual Abuse New Zealand


The papers are full again this weekend of the amount of sexual abuse that is prevalent in NewZealand and working with people for over 17 years now I thought it was time to truly speak up.Over the past 3 years the commission has estimated as many as a quarter of a million children were likely to be abused between 1950 and 1999.  These statistics are mindblowing
for a so called amazing country like New Zealand.
Sexual abuse is one of the key social problems undermining the health and wellbeing of our population today.  It has a wide prevalence and can have a high impact.

  • 1 out of 3 girls may be sexually abused before she turns 16 years old. Most of this abuse (90%) will be done by someone she knows and 70% will involve genital contact. For maori women the statistics might be up to twice this.

  • 1 in 7 boys may be sexually abused by adulthood.

    New Zealand is  placed the country third highest, alongside Australia. for sexual abuse and only approx 9% is reported.  What does that mean for people trying to heal?

I was away from New Zealand for 27 years and after helping people in Byron Bay decided
to come home and do this work in my own country.  NZ is very english, stiff upper lip, and
do not talk about it,and I have seen again and again people I have worked with, not believed
so they bury it down and it is never dealt with.  The guilt and the shame they carry in their

Sexual Abuse in New Zealand

I truly believe no matter how long people are in counselling, this can never be dealt with
the mind, which is full of fear doubt and judgement.  I have seen numerous clients finally put it to bed when they have experienced the  cellular healing in the journeymethod,  the forgiveness and the craniosacral balancing (somational release) then this is moved out of the cells.  Recently have had a few men also with great results - finally the story is finished. Weight drops off them and body illnesses are finally dealt with

An End to Sexual Abuse for good

You can continue in the courts and this will help but truly the healing lies in dealing with
it from the body and soul.  In the 17 years I have been operating Shunyata, I would say
there has been at least 20-30 people finally finished with this abuse and gone on to live
healthy wellbeing.  This purity, this innocence is your birthright and it's time to take it back.


 Caroline Myss recently said in her video on “Why Some People Don't Heal.Iif we keep the story open, we become the story", in survivors of rape.

Sexual Abuse and the Journey Method 

Do you want to open your heart and love again in a healthy way?
Do you truly want to put to bed what happened to you and start over, second chance, new beginnings?
Do you want final  true freedom in your life, in your body, heart and soul?
Do you want to put this abuse to bed for good?

Claim back your purity & innocence guaranteed!

 Contact Paru txt 0272 777734 
or email


and if you are not in New Zealand you can contact me to do a journeyover skype


New Closed fb group Paru's Empowering Wisdom for True Wellness - 24th Feb 2021

New Closed fb group Paru's Empowering Wisdom for True Wellness


Hello beloveds

I hope you are all well in this ascension time on the planet and rising in love.

My big news for 2021 is I am starting a closed fb group to eventually take over Shunyata called Paru’s Empowering Wisdom for True Wellness.My work is changing slowly and a fb group is the first step to those changes.

For people who know me - I am a no bullshit type of person and can honestly say that life has taught me so much, as I have never stopped learning and growing since my wake up call over 30 years ago.  So wisdom comes from life experience and looking around at other empowerment sites, I can truly say that I do share wisdom.  I have studied Ayurveda in India, Yoga in India,
Craniosacral with a meditative approach in India, The Journey training at least 3 times in Australia and overseas which encompasses NLP and The Enneagram (a huge passion) in depth with so many different courses , and the list goes on , as well as learning from my clients at Shunyata.  The last year with covid has been a true ascension in my being,  and for this want to share it more and will be travelling more in New Zealand in the future as I will not be having any innoculation.

This will be an interactive sharing group as collaboration is the only way to go. We are all wise in our own ways and if we put that wisdom together we can truly grow.

I will use topics including

  1. Importance of self love
  2. Importance of prayer and a higher power
  3. Ayurveda and tips
  4. Emotional Healing & The Journey method
  5. Menopause & Perimenopause
  6. Hormones and how to deal with it and the endocrine system
  7. Candida and autoimmune
  8. What is epigenitics
  9. Benefits of natural over taking drugs
  10. Best exercise for aging
  11. How NLP and hypnotherapy can help for phobias & Weight loss for your type
  12. Benefits of yoga going into old age
  13. Allergies and some tips
  14. Relationships – how to do it better - using the enneagram
  15. Masculine/ feminine energies
  16. True weight loss and what diet right for you
  17. What is abundance and how to manifest
  18. Thyroid and the importance of balancing
  19. How to deal with grief and using parents as legacy
  20. Ozone therapy & hydrogen peroxide uses
  21. Parenting in this age of wise children - what works and interviews
  22. How to prevent dementia and alzheimers
  23. Benefits to making life easy with high vibrancy esential oils
  24. Ascension and awakening in these times
  25. Relationship with death and ancestral clearing

There will be many more topics with interviews, good research tips and some live from me (letting go of image ego).I would love you to join us and to tell your friends -we will have fun, grow and share wisdom together.  

I will run a competition to get the group started - anyone who joins this group before the end of March will go into a draw to win a girls day out at Shunyata and if you are not in Christchurch, will be a session when I travel next summer or a pack of oils for doing the Aromatouch massage
with guidance on how to do it.  Wooppee spread the word.

Also if you share with your friends - February you can win Paru's ebook on recipes that
she uses at Shunyata.

Here is the link and hope you can join us for some juicy wisdom on TRUE WELLNESS covering so many topics from experimentation and wisdom of having been there and looking at all

Weight Loss, Health & Wellness Retreat - 9th Jan 2021

Weight Loss, Health & Wellness Retreat Shunyata health and wellness retreat in New Zealand has been open now for 17 years and
every year it just gets better.  The beauty of this retreat is you are seen individually with a
maximum of just 2 people at a time.

If it is weight loss then we address everything that might cause this holding on of weight
from thyroid issues, emotional or abuse issues and we detox the liver ayurveda style
and without even trying, the weight falls off and most importantly people leave inspired to
eat healthy according to their ayurveda type.  We even add hypnotherapy gastric band 
which Paru has had huge results with.

The retreat opened with emotional healing being the priority with what Paru believes if the
most amazing tool for freedom and awakening, The enneagram and combining this 
with The Journey method of Brandon Bays, you couldn't get a more powerful combination
for deal with the major block of your life.

If it's a mindfulness retreat you are looking for - you have come to the right place.

Just some of the issues we address where you have tried everything
stress, fear & anxiety
abuse sexual or physical
shut down
relationship blocks

We work beyond the mind with the body and soul that speak truth and there is light at the end
of the tunnel.

Wellness Retreat NZ

Couples counselling and relationships are her deepest love as she herself has learnt the 
highest form of love beyond romantic love studying personally  with David Deida  in Byron Bay who is renown for relationships higher loving, openess and masculine feminine polarity.

Retreat New Zealand

You will leave here knowing your life  purpose and have met your higher self with
a quiet mind ready to hit 2021, having had a holiday where you leave your baggage behind.
You will be inspired to eat delicious healthy food and be pampered and nurtured and have a great break and relax.  The body work with essential oils and craniosacral is the natural facelift
and your body and soul will be singing.

Take a look at the video done on Shunyata before lock down

and call 0272777734 or email to book your space for a 
special retreat just for you.
#wellness holiday#


Merry Xmas to my Beloved Clients - May your 2021 be incredible - 17th Dec 2020

Merry Xmas to my Beloved Clients - May your 2021 be incredible What a Year for so many of us and after 2019 being one of the worst -

For me 2020 has been the best year ever - cause I decided a long time ago that all
I want for xmas is to wake up to my true and highest self and this year has been that year.  The clarity of what is true and what is not has never been so clear.  The compassion and the humility
when I take responsibility for all that happens to me has been astounding.  The understanding
and knowing (not from the head but from the being) of the enneagram is deeper than ever
and finally the beat up I have been doing to myself when I catch myself in a pattern, is stopping.
The magic that happens from the divine when you break an unconcious pattern has been 

Freedom is seeing the truth, clarity from the heart and compassion for all of suffering,
without having to be responsible for it

Who are you if the roles of which you have played are taken away?
Who are you if someone betrays you and you don't follow your usual response?
Who are you if you trust that everything is perfect just as it is?
Who are you if your belief systems are different from everyone else and you don't care?
Who are you if your image of who you think you were gets taken away?

So what a year and thank you covid for supporting my waking up.  I feel not everyone has
seen 2020 this year and for this my heart is here for you.  But change your perception and
trust - we are about to head into a clearing in the next few days.  All will be revealed and 
good stuff and energy will be entering the planet if you have done the work.  May you be in the true deeper love and heart opening, may you feel compassion for those who have hurt you and come to a deep place of forgiveness.  May you have a great connection with a higher power and
practice daily gratefulness and prayer.

I have my family with me all together for the first time in 40 years and feel honoured and
blessed.  I have enough money to eat great food, I live in an untouched paradise that hasn't developed in 17 years and I treasure the land deeply.  I might not be able to travel for a while
but falling more deeply in love with our land.  My body and being is open and in love with life
after an amazing maori healing course I ran here last weekend and I might be doing a roadie this summer from february with my new van.

That means - like when I first arrived in NZ 20 years ago.  I will have my massage table and
my wisdom and be doing Journey's on the road.  Please watch this space as I would love to
enter your abode and share a day of awakening with the journey and enneagram, great food and body work with oils.

In the meantime have a space from 28 December for a detox.  What a way to enter 2021.
with journalling and brainstorming with clarity. December has been a month where people have come back for more deepening and I feel they have deeply benefited.  Also space for day spas from 28 december and the new year and ultimate healing retreats and detox and weight loss.

Ultimate Healing Day with Journey, enneagram, sauna, lunch and body work. $300
Girls day out 2 sessions sauna and lunch    $200

But whatever you chose the new deeper, more love Shunyata will welcome you with open arms.
compassion and deep wisdom.  Call Paru to book your space - we are so excited to 
welcome you and camp bay beach is simply divinity itself or a quick dive down to purau if
the tide is in.

Also anyone wanting some essential oils to make your life eaier - there is a free frankincense
worth $100 the king of all oils available - txt me  0272 777734.  Have new recipes using the oils for chocolates that I am willing to share.

I hope you all have a blessed and gorgeous time with your loved ones.  Remember if you have healed with family - you have truly healed.  Love you all and NAMASTE - your higher self
is the only way to live cause you have abundance and causeless joy and true freedom.

True Wellness - The best Wellness Retreat in New Zealand - 1st Dec 2020

True Wellness - The best Wellness Retreat in New Zealand

You have heard of the person who has eaten well and jogged all his life and drops dead

Best Wellness Retreat NZ

Wellness is far from a fad. It’s here to stay —now more than ever. Holistically,wellness starts from the point of view that all small parts make a healthy ‘whole’.Coming to a retreat to do a little yoga and meditation and some activities will not address true wellness – we have to look at the overall health and wellness of the individual  physically, mentally and from a soul prospective.and what is No same glove fits all – so one on one healing is paramount.  What unconcious behaviours are running that person,  the enneagram where did it first start,  childhood trauma what is stopping them really living a FULL LIFE.

At Shunyata wellness retreat  we address all of them, after 17 years of operation – Paru has travelled the world and searched high and low to offer the best. She has also been there herself with them so she comes from that knowing inside what truly works. Starting with Ayurveda, one of the most ancient traditions focusing on body mind and spirit.Emotional wellbeing – what is behind epigentics
 the study of how your behaviors and environment can cause changes that affect the way your genes work,that even the medical field are recognising and how important it is to meet unmet emotions being mainly sadness, grief and anger and to clear childhood trauma, as per Gabor Mate.

The following Components are crucial in wholeness and wellness.

1. Physical body – you need to have movement, yoga, stretches and right fuel for your body and immune, low sugar, less carbs and moderate protein and lots of greens for alkalinity.

2. Energy Body – needing meditation to awaken your chakras, your kundalini and your prana energy and lifeforce. We use craniosacral balancing to clear blocks that are inhibiting your lifeforce.

3. Emotional Body – how to deal with your feelings, your perception and connection to feeling love and connected and whole. Emotional intelligence is our specialty with the enneagram and the journey method.

4. Wisdom – Shed the ignorance of the mind, negative beliefs & thoughts and bring in right teachings to nourish the soul and body. Bring unconcious behaviours into consciousness with the enneagram.

5. Karma – storage of past karmic actions, we need to learn from our past mistakes.Clear out childhood trauma and past lives. The hero’s Journey.

6. Bliss Body – When we awaken our consciouness we activate bliss states which will heal disease. You meet your true self, your essence with the journey method.

 Paru trusts the bigger picture of 2020 -Greed, fear, manipulation and control are being exposed right now and brought to a head what is not right and the planet is being prepared for a new beginning.Doing this work on your soul, your wellness and wholeness is crucial at this time if you want to join a growing number of conscious people into a new way of BEING.  She invites you
home to your true self where bliss and freedom is the ULTIMATE HAPINESS

Recent comment from a client who just came for a day spa
"You have no idea the impact you had on me emotionally - I haven't felt this way for months
as I was so disconnected"

You can come for a day Ultimate Healing Day,3 days Emotional healing retreat,3 or 5 days Couples Return to Love retreat,or a 5 day or more  Ayurveda Detox & and Weight Loss retreat

but we can also tailor one specially based on your needs – the beauty of one on one healing.

 email or tel or txt 0272 777734




Maori Healing Body Course here at Shunyata - 11-13 December - 8th Nov 2020

Maori Healing Body Course here at Shunyata - 11-13 December

Maori Healer Coming to Shunyata – 11-13 December - still a few places left

Aroha - the 5 star retreat in queenstown just got to talk to her - we get to experience
her amazing healing here in gorgeous diamond harbour - pick up from lytellton ferry

fri 5-8 sat 9-4 sun 9-1 - so you still get your weekend

I am so so excited to welcome a being who has been to Shunyata twice– she was the best version of a 2 on the enneagram I have ever met, humble, light and incredibly wise. She even worked on my clients with me – it was amazing. Well life went on as it does,and we always talked of doing spiritual tours through NZ which I held deeply,but on heading to Northland in the past couple of months – I made contact again and took a beloved friend to her weekend workshop in Tauranga. That wast I had to bring her here.  She does with the body what I do with the heart and

She has travelled the world with authentic amazing maori healing working on Shirley Mclaine and Susan Saradon – and is the real mcoy. Part of the reason for coming home after 27 years was to connect with maori healers and have felt her the only authentic and real one.

Most of you who have come to Shunyata have heard me talk about the importance of getting out of the mind and into the body, especially in these harrowing times.Well this weekend is about that. She works like I do – taking you beyond your own limitations and pushing you to truly open and get back into your body from her ancient teachings of her grandmother. Lightness, tough love and humour are all there,and I have never felt so aligned with another healer as much as I do with this being.We work with a rakha, a stick to teach you how to open your own body and heal and it’s incredible. We arrived at the hot pools on the Saturday night and all the ladiesasked us what we were on – they wanted some. Pure openenss and connection with body is how I felt. Even the heart grief shifted fast when it came up.

You will take home tools to heal your own body and any body worker will love it.

Depending on numbers will be held here at Shunyata 10 Rawhiti Street Diamond HarbourI promise you will love this weekend.

Pick up from ferry 4.50pm and 8.50am sat and sunday

Bookings will fill up as many people interested so get in quick.

Email or txt or call 0272 777734


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