Addiction - When do we know that it is Out of Control - 12th Mar 2013


The best you tube I have found so far on addiction from a beautiful being

"Not all addictions are rooted in abuse or trauma, but I do believe they can all be traced to painful experience. A hurt is at the centre of all addictive behaviours. It is present in the gambler, the Internet addict, the compulsive shopper and the workaholic. The wound may not be as deep and the ache not as excruciating, and it may even be entirely hidden-but it's there. As we'll see, the effects of early stress or adverse experiences directly shape both the psychology and the neurobiology of addiction in the brain."


The most talked about film at the Sundance Film Festival  this year in Utah, USA was" Don Jon's Addiction ".

Let's face it most of us are fascinated about stories of addicts and how they overcome their addictions.
Some of us are asking ourselves - what does it take to have an addiction.  Some of us are denying we
have a problem until it becomes completely out of control and then we are still  in denial.

Besides the usual suspects - drugs, alcohol,food and sex - one can be addicted to work, sports, television, exercise, computer games, spiritual practice, negative attitudes and even thoughts.
It's a struggle with willpower and the absence of self control.  People who are either highly intellectual or emotional frequently have addiction problems because they struggle to balance these powers.
Needing a substance or practice or person so intensely or regularly that you compromise relationships, finances, integrity, character or emotional and psychological well-being, means you need to
truly look into whether you are a true addict.

It can start just as a habit and now you would agree that it's becomming more and more prevalent and recently someone I knew just couldn't get her son into a facility when he was truly ready to face his addiction. .  No-one can do this for anyone, the person has to be ready.  Like as someone once said, "One day the joint was my best friend, the next day was my worst enemy".
Two statements that have been proven watching addiction at Shunyata and how it can be helped.
" It's not the addiction, it's the person."  Also my teacher said "Addicts are just trying to find God through the bottle or drug" .

Do we need to go to AA or NA for the rest of our lives?
Can you break patterns and be free without help?
Is it in the DNA or passed on from families?

Addiction Retreat

It fascinated me to watch a centre in Holland where an ex addict who was with my master, worked with
people for a minimum of 3 mths,  taking them back to childhood and with awareness and maturity ,get them to use the energy they were using against themselves and pointing into the direction that made them feel good.     He has  72% success rate  of drug free in the last 20 years.  When I saw these people at a conference they were alive and vibrant and promised my brother I would take him there one day.  He wasn't ready and only heard - could drink again.

I came from a family of alchoholism and my drug of choice was food, starting at 12 years when my parents divorced and only when I did the deep work on this addiction could I eat normally again.  For an addict - just to be normal is so freeing as the drug or substance has the control.   Discovering the empowerment that comes with perseverance has a lifelong impact.  In other words "if I can give up
drinking, I can do anything" .
 I have seen how the 12 step programme can truly work in people's lives  and helps them to get real and have read numerous books on going beyond the 12 step ,also into a more spiritual awakening.
I have watched people come to Shunyata with habits like drinking a bottle of wine a night and do a liver cleanse and see huge changes. I would never take on someone that needs to go cold turkey, this is not my speciality.  But if the person truly wants to give up the addiction and needs some help - I have seen numerous people let go of ciggarettes and alcohol by a wake up call of some sort.  It's true, it's not the addiction - it is truly the person and when that self hatred is nourished  and deepens into self love,they come home to their true selves with The Journey, the habit gives them up.  We all need inspiration and non-judgement and that help is truly available at Shunyata.

When the person is ready the teacher appears - so if you or someone you know is ready tell them
to call Paru 3294773 and see if Shunyata is right for them

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