ADDICTION - Thank you for Sharing - Where to next after the 12 Step - 21st Nov 2013

ADDICTION - Thank you for Sharing - Where to next after the 12 Step


one of the best you tube interviews but anything with Gabor Mate is true

If Nigella Lawson took drugs, maybe  it was to dull the pain of her husbands death and the control of her new husband.  We are all addicts to hide unmet pain.  

Who am I to  talk about addictions, coming from a family of alcoholism, going out with 2 ex drug addicts and being saved from addiction myself I now run and Health & Healing Retreat in Diamond Harbour, Christchurch New Zealand where we work with the person not the addiction. I have great respect for the 12 step programme but there is the next step beyond – the spiritual awakening, the coming home to yourself.

"Not all addictions are rooted in abuse or trauma, but I do believe they can all be traced to painful experience. A hurt is at the centre of all addictive behaviours. It is present in the gambler, the Internet addict, the compulsive shopper and the workaholic and the food addict and in the sex addict as we saw in "Thank you for Sharing".The wound may not be as deep and the ache not as excruciating, and it may even be entirely hidden-but it's there. As we'll see, the effects of early stress or adverse experiences directly shape both the psychology and the neurobiology of addiction in the brain."

Addiction in New Zealand is widespread not only in alcohol, drugs but in food and recently even sugar addiction is common.  What makes an addict?  The most recent amazing book on addiction I have ever read Chasing the Scream by Johann Hari confirmed all my theories on why some people end up addicts and others don't.  It's to do with the childhood wounds and if these are dealt with then the addiction gives them up.

There are so many people addicted to methanphetomine in NZ or P and so far have had amazing success with dealing with the after work .of detox.  Combing Ayurveda, the most ancient form of balancing body, mind and soul, the journey to deal with childhood trauma or
letting go of beliefs and phobias and depression and anxiety and doterra pure essential oils
that go beyond the blood brain barrier into the limbic system, there is a lasting shift happening

In the 12 years Shunyata has been open – I have seen many people go into the wounds
That have caused the addiction and truly feel free. I always remember my ex addict friend saying to me “It’s not the addiction, it’s the person”

Recently a P addict attended Shunyata and as I felt she was ready to truly let go of the addiction and did the detox before she came  - she left here after doing an ayurveda colon cleanse and didn't even get to do the journey but bought a house in Diamond Harbour with the help of her father.  She needed to reach out and receive help.  Addicts just need love and to be seen for their true selves.

There are many parts to addiction Psychological, social, spiritual, physical and biological and it’s important to address each one.
Biological – Detox the liver with Ayurvedic Detox
Physical – Can show up as depressed – depression can me unmet feelings
Socially – marriage falling apart – Return to Love
Spiritual – hole – void – something missing
Emotional sobriety – when you have tried everything on outside – the job shifting the addiction - very important part and this is done at Shunyata with The Journey
Under most addicts there is a great deal self hatred, shame & guilt - the lowest calibre of consciousness so it’s important to meet that. This can be then continued with meditation, mindfulness & prayer.

As Tony Robbins says there are 6 human needs
4 basic
2 spiritual
If 3 or more needs aren’t met – then often addiction will form

1. certaintity comfort survival – god is my rock
2. uncertainty and variety – (need to risk unknown) associate death
3. need for significance or need important or special – always someone more – balance – need to share
4. love and connection – give up love too scary – connection is easier – important


2. Contribution - doing for others.

An addiction with trauma can also be stored in the body and then body cellular healing is important with Cranio Sacral Balancing .When we are disconnected from our true self, our joy – we become addicts to get that. Take away medicine (drug) replace with other tools.

When you leave the addiction & you start turning your gunk into gold you become a recovery alchemist. You have control and miracles start happening. I have met many addicts who then go on to help other addicts and are amazing therapists.


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